Top 5 Pros & Cons of Open Relationships

EdBennett — Thu, 04 Jun 2015 11:12:53 +0000

4 Jun 2015 - 12:12 | Tags: open relationships, poly relationships

Sexual exploration and how we relate to one another through sex has evolved in the past century, but not in the way people might think. Whilst open relationships may sound like a new concept to most people, the truth is they have been about since man first discovered out to put his penis into a vagina millennia ago. But like every relationship, an open sexual relationship has both pros and cons to it. So to help you understand whether or not an open sexual relationship is the right one for you, here are some tips.

PROS
1. Sex With More Than 1 Person
Yep. You get to have sex with a variety of different people and not just the same person. Variety can be the spice of life (so they say).

2. More Varied Sex
You can do things with one partner that you might not be able to do with another partner. Explore kinks with one person that another person isn’t willing to indulge you in.

3. You Don’t Miss Out
We’ve all walked down the street checking out other people and thinking “Damn he/she is hot! I wonder what it would be like to have sex with her/him.” In an open relationship you can actually explore these opportunities with no guilt.

4. It’s Casual
Any open relationship no matter what people say, is causal. You don’t get tied down to being with one person.

5. You Don’t Get Bored
As you’re sleeping with different people, and different people like different things, the chances are you rarely get bored with sex.

CONS
1. There is Guilt
Even though you may have established the rules in your open relationship, guilt will invariably surface. It’s hard not to feel guilty when telling your partners how much they mean to you, knowing full well you slept with someone else the previous night. It’s hard to be equally affectionate so there will always be guilt.

2. Jealousy Will Rise
Like it or not one or more of you will get jealous of the others. It’s a natural instinct. You worry that your partner might leave you, they worry you might leave them…the circle goes on.

3. Pregnancy, STDs and STIs
The more people you sleep with, the greater the chance of catching something or of someone getting pregnant accidentally.

4. Time Management
Becomes very hard to manage when you have more than one partner to cope with.

5. Uncertainty
You don’t know when someone is going to leave or stay in an open relationship. More options means more chances for people to meet other people.

Whatever you decide is the best way to explore your sexuality, we hope we’ve given you enough advice to be fully prepared before taking the plunge.

The Open Relationship Conundrum

EdBennett — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 09:00:00 +0000

18 Jan 2014 - 09:00 | Tags: poly relationships

We have talked about poly relationships before in this blog, but recently we’ve had a few emails asking more questions about it. Some snippets include;

I think I’m in an open relationship but how do I know for sure?

My boyfriend has asked me if I’d be interested in having other boyfriends as well as him. I’ve thought about it but I don’t know if he’s asking out of jealously or if he wants permission to have other girlfriends as well. What do I do?

I really like two men I’ve been dating equally and would like to ask both if they would be willing to share me as a girlfriend, how do I broach the subject?

Like we said just a few questions. So I’m going to try and answer them one at a time.

1. I think I’m in an open relationship, but how do I know for sure?
This smacks to me of someone who’s just started dating someone (possibly a fuck buddy) but isn’t yet sure what the ground rules of a casual relationship are. The best ways to resolve this problem is to simply talk to the person you’re fucking/dating and ask them. If they’re honest they’ll tell you whether or not they’re sleeping with other people. If you’re not sure that you want to share them with other people then you need to ask yourself if an open relationship is actually for you.

2. My boyfriend has asked me if I’d be interested in having other boyfriends as well as him. I’ve thought about it but I don’t know if he’s asking out of jealously or if he wants permission to have other girlfriends as well. What do I do?
The answer is very similar to the one above; talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend. First of all you need to take them at their word rather then start thinking about all the possible ways they could be lying to you. If they have broached the subject with you then let’s assume they’re simply doing you the courtesy of asking your opinion. Either way you need to sit down and talk about it and go from there.

3. I really like two men I’ve been dating equally and would like to ask both if they would be willing to share me as a girlfriend, how do I broach the subject?
Again the answer is the same as the ones above; you simply need to bite the bullet and talk to them both. However before you launch in and ask, take a moment to look at yourself as well. Is this something you really want? Can you commit to each of them equally? If you ask yourself these questions first then you’ll be better equipped to talk to both of the men in question. Either way, you do need to talk to them about it.

We’ll run some more pieces on this subject in the coming months as it is something that more and more of our members are interested in learning about.

Happy fucking!

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Top 5 Pros & Cons of Open Relationships

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