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A no strings attached relationship does not mean no effort

EdBennett — Sat, 30 May 2020 15:59:08 +0000

30 May 2020 - 16:59 | Tags: basic tenets of casual sex, No strings attached sex, f-buddy advice

Having a no strings attached relationship can be so good for you. For many people, a “monogamous relationship” which should be a force for happiness in their lives, is anything but. Over time, your partner who was previously nice to you can start to treat you badly, all the things about that partner that you previously thought were “cute and quirky” seem to now just be annoying as hell, and eventually, the frequency of sex can be drastically reduced if it is even still happening at all. All of this can lead to an unsatisfactory relationship for both parties. No one is happy.

The nice thing about a no strings attached relationship is that, in most cases, none of the above occur. There is no expectation of spending all your time together, which means the “quirky” habits of your fuck buddy remain exactly that in your eyes, quirky. You both know that this is an adult relationship without ties, so if one person starts to treat the other badly, they leave. This encourages good behavior on both sides. Finally, the sex remains on the table. That is not to say that you would be fucking like bunny rabbits like you did in the early days, but both of you know that were it to ever stop, it would mark the end of the no-strings-attached relationship. So as long as you are fuck buddies, you are fucking.

However, just because there are no strings attached to the relationship, does not mean you should make no efforts. Hooking up with someone is straight forward, maintaining a fuck buddy in your life takes some work. When you first hook up with a fuck buddy, because it is all new and exciting because it is different, you have to do almost nothing at all. You are interesting just because they don’t know you. After a little time though, without at least some effort things will die down. A person will forgive another for disliked habits or actions the first time because they have to accept that the person may not have understood that they did not like it. Once they have been told, doing that same action will elicit a very different response indeed! Making small gestures to be helpful or kind can go a huge way in fostering trust, generosity, and sexual attraction. These things are so helpful to keep things exciting for you and your fuck buddy when in the bedroom.

One of my greatest sexual experiences was having a fuck buddy go nuts over me. In that moment, for that evening, she wanted to fuck me so much she kissed, cajoled and stimulated me till I wanted her just as much. She wanted me to want her as much as she wanted me! Making an effort is how you foster feelings like this.

So when you find your fuck buddy that you like, take action to hang on to them. A little effort will go a long way, and remember: you get what you put in.

How to fuck like there is no tomorrow

EdBennett — Fri, 18 Nov 2016 12:22:22 +0000

18 Nov 2016 - 12:22 | Tags: basic tenets of casual sex, great sex guide, fucking hard

Everyone wants to be fucked like there is no tomorrow. The best way to do this? Fuck the other person like there is no tomorrow, and they will naturally reciprocate. So how do you do this?

Technique:

There are several techniques that could help you out with this. Here are a list of a few go to places to read up more about specific technique that you can use to help keep the heat up in the bedroom. Here are a few of them:

Attitude:

You need to have the right attitude to do this. You need to go into the seduction with a real energy, with a desire, want, drive that pushes you to really push the other person into the sex. I don’t mean this in a slightly rapey way. Never have non consensual sex, regardless of the fact that you might end up in jail, it makes you a massive knob. Just don’t do it. What I mean though is driving into the sex so that you are pushing the energy of the encounter. That you are driving the seduction, the desire, the need. All you need to be able to do this in an effective and powerful manor is to have the right attitude. There is one simple technique that will help you do this, that will shift your mental perception so that everything else comes naturally.

Remember that you are going to die

What?! I can almost hear your reaction to the title of this in my mind – but stay with me for a moment and you will soon not only understand what I am saying, you will go out and try it.

Fact 1: We are all going to die. It is true and inevitable. We can try to avoid death, to prolong life, to sneak our way around or past death, but ultimately if you have been born, one day you will die. Agreed? Good.

Fact 2: No one know when they are going to die. You can make a prediction of when you are likely to die of old age, but that is a prediction only. You could die next year, next week, in the next few minutes. Probability tells us that there is a chance that for one person, this blog post is the last thing thing that you are going read. That person could be you (and if it is you, I am sorry for what is about to happen to you). No one knows when their time is up. Agreed? Good. So lets get to the crux.

Ergo:
• You are going to Die.
• You don’t know when
• So there is a chance that today really is the last time you are ever going to fuck.

This means that you really can fuck like there is no tomorrow, because for you there may not be! You really don’t know, but if you bear it in mind and think about it, you can use this to drive your energy to embrace this way of having sex.... and trust me when I say, the results are good!

How to not be jealous in relationships

EdBennett — Mon, 21 Mar 2016 19:25:15 +0000

21 Mar 2016 - 19:25 | Tags: how to be the perfect fuck buddy, basic tenets of casual sex

If you are here it is likely that you are looking for the life of abundance that you so rightly deserve. You have thrown of the shakles of “one man and one woman” and have realised that really it can be however you want it to be. If you want to be sleeping with several men or woman at the same time you can absolutely do that... and that can even be during the same week period, or literally at the same time! You can have it however you want, and the secret to this is simply finding like minded people who also want to be living the same level of abundance.

One of the key things that can sometimes mess this up for us sadly, is not any external factor, but is actually us. Ourselves. We can sometimes be our own worst enemy when it comes to leading the happy abundant lives that we wish to lead. The best person to sabotage our successes is not our worst enemy, but us. This can come in many forms, the one that I wish to focus on here is jealousy.

Jealousy is the great fun killer. It can and will destroy any and all joy that it finds if you give it the change to do so. It can rampage through your life and kill not only the moment, but destroy all future happiness as well by causing you to sabotage your own life. So how can we get over this, how can we not be jealous? The key thing here is understanding what causes jealousy.

The root cause of jealousy

Jealousy is a symptom of a fundamental root cause. Insecurity. If we are jealous of a woman talking to someone else, it is because we fear that they are going to leave us to sleep with the other person. It is fear that drives it. Here on f-buddy we take a more enlightened view of the world and openly accept that it is *okay* to sleep with different people without it being at all negative or bad. Again when jealousy rears its head about the person we are sleeping with going to someone else’s bed, what is it that is causing it? Our own fear or insecurity. What if the other person is better in bed than us, is more fun, more attractive...? Any of those things would be enough to cause us to fear a change in our own position or relationship with the person we are sleeping with.

So what can be done about it. The 1st step is to recognise that it is insecurity that is driving this, that is our own fear about something that is to do with ourselves. From there we can then address the real issue.

Remember, jealousy can only ruin your life, so deal with it. Fast.

How to ruin a woman so she can never sleep with another

EdBennett — Thu, 10 Mar 2016 13:20:21 +0000

10 Mar 2016 - 13:20 | Tags: unforgettable sex, be a sex god, basic tenets of casual sex

It is the dream that all of us have. To find a woman, and have her *so * into us that she becomes incapable of ever sleeping with anyone else ever again! She wants you – and only you! She loves everything about you, and not because you put on a front, but because you are exactly who you are. Now the truth is that this is impossible to achieve, no one will ever like another human so much that everything that they do is wonderful! It is just not possible. We are, after all, human. So how can we fill this fantasy of the woman who can never sleep with another? The key is to ruin her for another man! Here are my top tips to achieve this!

Get her to say your name when coming

There is no bigger turn off than having someone scream someone else’s name when they come. There is no faster way to get yourself kicked out of bed! If you were with someone and they started moaning another persons name, I don’t know a single person that wouldn’t have an issue with this. I had a friend who once was with a girl who when she came screamed “sister Mary Margret!”. Needless to say this was the last time he saw her – it was just a bit too weird.
So, tell the girl you are with that you really like it if they say your name when they come. After a bit they will get used to it, and it will become habit. Should she ever try and sleep with another – she may find this hampers her ability to make it last!

Be amazing in bed

This is a long term goal and there are no quick wins here, but it stands the test of time. Be amazing in bed and the girl you are with will rarely want to go elsewhere. This takes time and work, and I won’t cover it here. There is another article covering that. Just remember that being better in bed has both short and long term gains. Well worth the effort.

Give her some memorable moments

Our memories are not perfect. We do not remember each day that we live equally. Instead we remember the important moments, the big moments, the turning points. We defiantly remember the moments of strong emotions... and that is where you want to aim. Give the person some moments of strong emotion. This can be joy and fun (people often reminisce about their favourite moments in life!). This can also be other less thought about amotions such as fear – the first time you have sex outside it is the fear of being caught /shame etc that gives a lot of the emotion spike. Give her these moments and she will forever compare others to what she had with you. It will make you immortal in her mind.

Do some firsts

Firsts are an amazing option if you can find them . Everyone remembers their first kiss, right? Well if you can find some “firsts” that are yet untouched – do them. Go alternative if you want, first time being tied up, first time you used a sex toy, first time you d sex in a cupboard! Think alternative and you will find that there are a huge number of “firsts” waiting to be done. Do them!

You will notice that most of this revolves around sex. This is deliberate. So go forth and have sex!

Never Watch RomComs if you want great sex

EdBennett — Thu, 21 Jan 2016 09:23:03 +0000

21 Jan 2016 - 09:23 | Tags: basic tenets of casual sex, sex do's and don'ts

Disclaimer: I am about to talk to you about one of my personal pet hates. I am going to rant, I am going to rave, I am not going to even try to present a balanced point of view... I am simply going to tell you how I feel about that spawn of Satan... RomComs (he vomits violently as he types the words). You have been warned!

RomComs. I hate them. Passionately. The reason is that they are so bad for you. They are the Heroin of Television, the cocaine of the entertainment industry. You think it is great, you think it is a fun thing to do, you love it whilst the high last, and it often leaves you wanting more of it... but it is evil poison that fucks you up and leaves you less of a (wo)man than you were before.

What they affect

RomComs are food for the mind. If you eat nothing but burgers and butter you get fat and unhealthy right? The same is true with the way your mind changes based on if you feed it good or bad “food”. All television feeds the brain and therefore affects your view of the world in which you live in. Be careful what you “eat” – because you become what you eat.

The lie they sell you about sex

They tell you so many lies – let’s start with the sex. All movie sex scenes seem to go on for an age. The sex lasts for hours, the “normal” man has an erection that stays hard for days, and everyone has an oh so perfect body. No one can *ever* live up to this level of sex, and you know why? It is not real, it is a lie. Recognise this.

The lies they tell you about how to get sex

It just happens magically! You just walk down the street, you bump into the perfect sexual and romantic partner, and through a series of hilarious consequences you end up sleeping together. It teaches your mind that you can live your life doing nothing, taking no action at all and still get laid. This is a lie – unless you take action you will be a virgin for your whole life.

The biggest lie: There is always something better around the corner

This really gets my goat. Our human lives are lived by comparison. We judge our happiness on comparison. If you live in the slums and you manage to get a small flat, you are super happy with that. If you like in a flat and everyone else lives in mansions then you are likely to be unhappy with your living situation.

RomCom’s tell – specifically women – that there is a perfect guy waiting around the corner from them. They could bump into them at any minute in the lift/street/shopping centre, and it is Hugh Grant or Brad Pitt. This means that they are likely to be less happy in their current relationship and they won’t even know why this is! It reduces sexual and romantic satisfaction for the ladies. I hate it with a passion.

Kill and burn all RomComs rather than feed your mind that poisonous shit. Stay away if you want to be happy.

Do your perfect sexual partner a favour – find them and fuck them

EdBennett — Tue, 12 Jan 2016 09:01:34 +0000

12 Jan 2016 - 09:01 | Tags: fuck buddy or partner, finding orgasms, basic tenets of casual sex

We all have certain preferences when it comes to having sex with people. Maybe that is how we like to have sex, fast or slow, hard or soft. For some people it is what is needed to turn them on, some people like to be tied up, other people like to be punished, others like none of that and want something extremely vanilla and anything kinky is actually a huge turn off. Some people like it roughm, some people like it soft, most (but not all) people enjoy either being taken/taking someone... what ever it is you like there is a strong argument that one of your life missions is to find that person that balances you. I make no exaggeration here. Your life mission.

First accept that happiness is linked to sex

There are many things that we need in life to make us happy.

Good food
A roof over our head (that preferably we like)
Warmth
The resources to sustain our life (usually money)
A mission (often this will be a combination of a job and something else – but not 100% of the time).
A compatible sexual partner

Look at the list above. Sex is on that list right next to food. It is a basic necessity of a happy life. Yes we can survive without it, but can we be truly happy without that sexual partnership? The answer is no, we cannot.

Second realise that you must actively pursue it

If you want money you have to work for it. If you want a job you have to find it. If you want to achieve anything you have to make it happen for yourself. Why would sex be any different? If you want to have a great sex life, you have top actively pursue it. Recognise that you want it. Then go and get it.

Third – realise that finding your perfect partner is a win win

Spending your time trying to hunt down the perfect sexual partner can feel a little predatory and hunter like. Put this aside with the following unfderstanding. If you find your perfect fuck buddy, your ying to a yang, then they also get to have their perfect fuck. They get to have you. To them you are the dream that they have been looking for all their lives! You not only give yourself the greatest gift, you are giving them the same.

Seek your perfect fuck, and never stop till you find it.

How to overcome feeling insecure about sex

EdBennett — Fri, 20 Nov 2015 10:36:54 +0000

20 Nov 2015 - 10:36 | Tags: basic tenets of casual sex, sex tips

Everyone is a little insecure when it comes to having sex... or every normal person has their insecure moments at the very least. We think that this is generally a new relationship thing, that it always occurs when we first sleep with someone the fades over time. This is not true. The problems stem from different areas. With this in mind I am going to break this article up into sex in new relationships and sex in old relationships.

Sex with someone new

When you are sleeping with someone new, you are naturally going to be a little insecure about having sex with them. Let’s break this down.
What you are insecure about – there is the one main driver: You want to please them. For most people that means hoping to make them orgasm. You of course want to orgasm yourself; the ideal is that you both come at the same time – a rare occurrence.
Remember – it is okay to be insecure about this, because the difficulty is true! What many people forget is that as you have never slept with them before, it is unlikely that they are going to be able to come hard. They themselves are caught up in their own nervousness and insecurities about having sex with a new person. So recognise that they are dealing with their own issues and relax. It is normal for it to take time to be able to reach high sexual heights.

Sex with in a new relationship

So you have slept together before, but things are still new. You are still getting to know the other person, and you are still worried about things like making sure your partner is having an amazing time, or that you come a little too early etc etc. A good combatant to this is to focus on listening to the other person. Really listen to what they have to say to you, more importantly listen to what their body has to say when you are doing things. They will tell you what is good and what isn’t and you can quickly move forward from there.

Sex in a long term relationship

You have now been with someone for a decent amount of time. You are comfortable with each other. The big insecurity pit falls here are becoming concerned that things are becoming a little stale, or in some cases your tastes change and so what once turned you on no longer does. Just try and be open with this, talk to the other person about it. Remember that you can mix things up whenever you want, so if you want to do something new and bit different, go ahead and do it.

4 Basic Rules of Casual Sex

jeni — Tue, 19 Nov 2013 09:00:00 +0000

19 Nov 2013 - 09:00 | Tags: basic tenets of casual sex

Over the past year we have talked a lot about casual sex and the benefits and pitfalls involved. Whether or not you’re looking for a girlfriend/boyfriend or just someone to fuck, casual sex will at some point be of use to you. With all the data we’ve collected we have managed to put together 4 Basic Tenets that will help you enjoy your casual sex a lot more then you will if you go in blind.

1. Experiment
This isn’t a girlfriend or boyfriend you’re banging. This is either a friend or casual acquaintance with whom to enjoy some physical pleasure with. As such you should treat it as practice for when you do meet someone you want to spend more time with. Don’t be afraid to try things (eg. New positions, techniques) that you ordinarily don’t do. You can use your partner as a litmus test for what you like and don’t like and vice versa.

2. Find what works best for you
Kind of an addendum to the first point. Through experimenting with different things you will be able to find something that works for you. Basically you’ll be in a far better position to impress a girl you do want to impress with your sexual confidence.

3. Don’t treat your sex partner like a boyfriend/girlfriend
Make sure you’re both on the same page before you start fucking as otherwise someone’s feelings are going to get hurt. Be clear on the status and nature of the casual relationship right from the start because if you’re not, further down the line one of you is going to get into a lot of trouble and pain that’s just not worth the effort. This is a need to fulfil a sexual desire. Do not treat it otherwise…unless you both agree to.

4. Go Wild
This is your opportunity to cut loose and fuck free in the bedroom. You have no fear of what you’re getting up to of leaking out to someone you may know in a casual relationship (which is another reason to keep the rest of your life separate from this) so feel free to act out hard core porn scenes, bondage…whatever your wildest fantasies may be. Just warn your partner first so that they aren’t too shocked by your wild side when it comes into play!

Follow the Tenets…Enjoy the Pleasures
Casual sex can be a great way to relieve stress cause by little to no sex but you must remember some of these basic rules in order to enjoy it to the full and avoid hurting someone…including yourself.

Happy fucking!