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On line dating - It is a numbers game

EdBennett — Thu, 19 May 2016 12:56:39 +0000

19 May 2016 - 13:56 | Tags: online dating, online dating advice

Whether you are looking for a casual relationship, a one of threesome, a regular f-buddy, a long term relationship or even your hearts true love, it is actually all a numbers game.

When trying to get a girl or guy into a romantic or sexual context, we often out the onus on ourselves in terms of how it went. If it goes “badly” then we will instinctively look inwards to ourselves to see what we did “wrong” or even more what is wrong with us. That can often lead to incorrect assumptions about ourselves. I was too talky/I didn’t talk enough. I was too loud/I was too quiet. (S)He would have liked me more if only I have been richer/better looking/stronger/better dressed etc etc. We then would often take action on these learnings. We would put huge effort into going to the gym, or into earning more money. We would go and spend what money we have on better clothes, or perhaps learn a language to impress a girl/guy. There is no limit to the extent that we will go in this regard...

...when actually maybe we just need to play the numbers game. If you meet, let’s say you like girls for a second, a girl you really like. You find out about her and you realise what she really wants is to date a doctor. You really want a girlfriend, but you are a builder. So you put huge effort to change your life to become a doctor. You go to University, you work hard, you take exams and eventually you become a doctor. At this point, maybe she decides she likes you and goes out with you, or maybe not. The important thing here is that you spent your time and effort/energy on changing your self to better suit the requirements of this one girl. Why not do it the other way?

You see, there will also be a ton of girls out there who want to date a builder. They want a guy who is strong, works with his hands rather than just his brain, who can make things. So rather then spend time and effort trying to change to be someone else that the girl in front of you wants, why not instead spend that effort looking for the girl who actually wants you as you are now! The girl for whom you are already the ideal f-buddy/relationship/threesome partner etc etc.

This is a numbers game, so play the numbers and you will eventually discover the person for whom you are the perfect find!

For men – focus on your photos

EdBennett — Thu, 12 Nov 2015 10:41:08 +0000

12 Nov 2015 - 10:41 | Tags: sex advice, f-buddy advice, online dating

This article is aimed primarily at men. When looking for an f-buddy, you come here, you log on and you message some people. Since 95% of the meet ups that occur have been initiated by the guy messaging the girl, men often forget that sometimes the girl is the one looking for the guy! Whilst his happens rarely in terms of the online interaction process, what will happen is that when you message a girl the first thing that a girl will look at is your photos.

As a man you will have spent time sorting out all the parts of your life. Your job, your home set up, your social groups. We are defined by so much more than simply what we look like. However, when you message a girl and she clicks on your profile, the gateway to her meeting you remains the profile pic. She will look at the main photo, and make an instant and shallow judgement on whether she might fancy you or not. If it is a yes she will click through. If it is a maybe then depending on how busy she is and how many other messages she has she may or may not click through. If it is a no, she will click away. You could be a brain surgeon that saves people’s lives on a daily basis and lives in a mansion, but unless that picture looks good she will simply never find out any of this. She will already have moved on to someone else who has made sure that their photo isn’t a badly taken blur of a person in a dark room.

So what are the top three tips for photos?

Ensure that the photos are not blurry. A blurred photo is an instant turn off.
Ensure that it is good quality. Most camera phones can take outstanding photos these days, so there is no excuse for the blurry low resolution mess that I see sometimes. That is going to get you nowhere.
Ensure that it is obvious who you are in the photo. A group photo can be great; it shows you have friends and displays social proof. However, if they do not know which one you are they will move on. For your profile picture a photo of just you on your own is best.

No one can make you look different to what you actually look like, however a decent photo will make all the difference to getting a face to face meeting with a girl.

Finding a f-buddy is not the instant option – it is however the higher quality option

EdBennett — Tue, 29 Sep 2015 14:28:39 +0000

29 Sep 2015 - 15:28 | Tags: f-buddy, escorts, online dating

I am going to put it right out there – if you are purely looking for basic sex without anything else, and you are calculating this on trying to find the quickest way of getting it, your best bet is to hire an escort or a prostitute. This is of course not what we do here at f-buddy, what we are looking to do is help you find a like minded person of the opposite sex for a more no strings attached meeting. The level of this can be entirely alterable based on what you are looking for of course, some people just want a quick one night stand, other people are looking for a medium term “friends with benefits” type of set up, the variations go on and on. Bringing this back to basics however, if you are looking for just a quick fuck then a prostitute is the way to go financially. However what you won’t get with a prostitute is true, it will be a lie.

What you most want when you have sex is one of two things:

• To take someone that wants you to take them
• To be taken by someone that wants you enough to take you

We all have jobs, and we all know that after a period of time in any job, we fall into a routine with it. Very few people love their jobs, and all of us have moments of not enjoying our jobs. When you sleep with someone you have paid for sex, you are unlikely to get the truth of them wanting you. On the rare occasion that you do, you can never be sure that it is the truth.

Why an F-Buddy gets great sex

With a fuck buddy, or a friends with benefits type set up, you know that the other person wants to be sleeping with you. You can trust in yourself that they when they scrape their fingers down your back – leaving red welt marks of passion behind to remind you of your night together - that they mean it. That they chose to have sex, and that brings a quality to the sex that cannot be underestimated. Sex without this is like food without salt, like cereal without milk. At best it is warm ice cream.

Find someone who wants to have sex and you both come out on top (unless you prefer to be on the bottom!)

Top 5 Ways to Get a response from a F-Buddy

EdBennett — Sat, 25 Jul 2015 10:39:11 +0000

25 Jul 2015 - 11:39 | Tags: messaging, texting, what to say, casual sex, adult dating, online dating

Quite often you message a lot of people hoping to get a reply, and the next time you look in your inbox you find it’s still empty. Why is no one responding to you? It could be a number of things. They could be busy and just haven’t had time to read your message yet. It could be their message box is full and they can’t receive anymore messages. It could be that you send the exact same messages to different people. Whatever the reason, here are a few ways to boost your chances of getting a response to your messages.

1. BE CREATIVE

People (women especially) receive the same old tired and boring opening messages from prospective f-buddies. Everyone is tired of reading about how gorgeous they are or how sexy they are or getting ‘liked’ or ‘winked’ at. Be a little more creative with your messaging and you might find you get more responses. Noting something about someone’s profile and then writing about it in a message is a start. Don’t just say ‘Hi’ or ‘U R SEXY!’

2. BE CONFIDENT

Half of finding a good f-buddy is mindset. If you have low self-esteem when you start looking, it may sink even lower. People can smell when someone’s not feeling confident even in a message. Lack of confidence is not attractive. Men and women are both attracted to confidence in general. Someone who is not naturally confident will struggle here. So if you’re not naturally confident – pretend that you are when you’re messaging! The more you pretend the more you project a confident air. One day you realise it is no longer an air. It’s real.

3. BE CHARMING & ATTRACTIVE

You don’t message people with the intent of acting like an arrogant dick. You message people wanting to show them that you are a charming and attractive person. Being a cock will not get you a f-buddy – or if it does, they won’t stick around for long.

4. BE ENDEARING

Often confused with ‘be mysterious’. Women aren’t after mysterious men. They’re after interesting men who are endearing. Endearing means you’re fun, attractive and generally good to be around.

5. BE GRACIOUS

If someone doesn’t want to have sex on a first date, that’s okay. Believe it or not most people want to get to know someone even a little before they hop into bed with them. Be gracious if your potential f-buddy doesn’t want to have sex the first time you meet.

Renee is looking for a Fuck Buddy!

jeni — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 20:37:00 +0000

11 Mar 2013 - 20:37 | Tags: adult chat, f-buddy, find sex in Australia, free dating site, fuck buddy, hook up, No strings attached, nsa, online dating, root

Renee is hot, horny and looking for a Fuck Buddy - 'I just want to have some fun'. Having been 'Miss Serious' for sometime now, Renee says she feels like she's missed out on a lot of 'shit'. We assume she means freaky shit with a fuck buddy! Now she's just looking for lust in the right place!

If you're looking for sex in Australia and fancy hooking up with Renee sign up for an account on F-Buddy now and drop her a line. Alternatively, log in to your account and send her message. You could be having fun with Renee sooner than you think!

Should you hire an online dating coach?

jeni — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 19:06:24 +0000

6 Mar 2013 - 19:06 | Tags: online dating, online dating coach, online dating consultant

You’ve been online dating for a while now. You’ve messaged, maybe even met up with a few people, but all the dates end the same way – you going home with a usually empty wallet. You must be doing something wrong, right? Well, maybe-maybe not. Online dating like organic dating isn’t an exact science no matter what the algorithm brigade may say. What is certain though is that there is no shortage of advice on the net over what you should and shouldn’t do on a date.

And then there’s the online dating coach.

What is an online dating coach?
Very simply, this is someone who will help you get a date and more importantly have a successful date...if they’re good.

Should I get one?
This all comes down to how you feel about your current situation. If you are having no luck getting responses from any of our f-buddies here or on any other dating site you’re using, then you may want to consider looking at a dating coach.

What’s the right one for me?
This is where things get a little more complicated and it depends on how you feel about where you are dating wise. For example if you’re someone who is getting responses and has met up for a few intimate encounters but is not happy with the encounters or feels like they’re not enough, then you might just want to have a search online for some general advice. As you’re already getting somewhere, you’re probably doing things right 70% of the time and just need an extra 30% to make yourself irresistible.

However if you are getting no responses at all, then you might need to go a little further and hire someone to take a look at your profile and have a chat with you about who you are, what you’ve been writing and what it is you want from online dating.

Is it a con?
Like anything in this world, you’re going to get people who are out to make a fast buck as well as the decent services who genuinely want to help you. The skill is in telling the con artist from the genuine coach.

So the simple way to check the difference is to knuckle down and do your research. Here are a few tips:

1. See how many testimonials the coach or consultant has on their website
2. Find out how long the coach has been a coach. Are they experienced, or just starting out?
3. Are they willing to offer a free trial consultation? Try before you buy is always useful and can help you decide whether or not that consultant is right for you.

At the end of the day a dating coach may or may not help you. Like everything in the online dating world, it’s about finding the right fit for you.

Do you need to be dominant to date online?

jeni — Mon, 04 Mar 2013 22:21:00 +0000

4 Mar 2013 - 22:21 | Tags: dominate, domme, online dating

The general rule of thumb is that a woman wants a man to be a man. By this I mean that as a guy you need to be confident, in control without being controlling and responsive to your partner’s feelings and reactions. In a way it’s a bit of a contradiction to what you often hear many women say in public.

Many girls say they want a man to be caring and kind, but in the bedroom caring and kind just doesn’t cut it and the idea of losing control to a dominant alpha male is a huge turn on for many. But there are women who like to reverse the role and dominate a man in the bedroom.

The Domme
BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Submission and Masochism for the uninitiated) has been around since Adam and Eve first discovered that sex was pretty damn amazing. Whilst it’s true that many women love it when a man takes control sexually, sometimes those same women like to dominate their partner in the sack as well.

It’s nothing to be frightened or wary of – quite the opposite in fact. Allowing a woman to dominate you sexually can turn both her and you on in ways you probably weren’t aware of.

“Hmmm...how to say this? Well I’ve always been the dominant sort of girl among men. I boss them around, I hit them if they do something I disapprove of and I generally just like to be the woman in charge. Going further into the realm of kink, I’m always drawn to the femdom sort of stuff. I just…all around like the dominating idea.”
The Alpha Female, from ‘The Experience Project’

That quote taken from a woman who is smart, intelligent and powerful shows that there are women who like to be the boss in the bedroom. This also extends into the online world with women who want to dominate online dating and be the Alpha.

The Alpha Female
Fact is that women’s lib has been a great thing for a number of reasons.

1. It has enabled women to speak more freely and openly about their sexual desires and preferences
2. Both men and women feel much more comfortable talking about and seeking casual sex without fear of recrimination
3. Sex is no longer something to be talked about behind closed doors
4. It has allowed both men and women to talk comfortably about how much they enjoy sex

The Alpha female, whilst not to everyone’s personal taste, has been a positive contributing factor to all of this. Feel free to let her test your boundaries. You may be surprised at how much you like it.

Online Dating 1st Message - What to write

jeni — Sun, 24 Feb 2013 17:49:00 +0000

24 Feb 2013 - 17:49 | Tags: 1st message, online dating

How often have you gone up to someone you like the look of in a bar or club and said something that sounded really good in your head, but ended up coming out like a criminal activities report?

I can hold my hand up on this one as well. I’m not shy in admitting it.

We all mess up, but what’s important is what we can learn from it and what we can do to improve ourselves. Online dating gives us the opportunity to hone our chat up lines by deciding what to write in our first message to someone.

1st Message rules

Read The Profile
Saying ‘hello’ can be the hardest thing in the world sometimes, especially if you fancy the person you want to say ‘hi’ to. Fortunately when you’re online you’ve got a bit more to go on; like a profile for a start. It’s always worth reading the profile before sending a message for several reasons:

1. It will help you decide whether or not you actually want to meet that person
2. You’ll look pretty stupid if you turn up armed with rope and a bull-gag only to discover your potential f-buddy isn’t in to S&M, which was on the profile you didn’t read, dumbass.
3. You meet up with someone only to discover that they live miles away because hey, guess what genius? You didn’t read the profile.
4. Reading the profile first will also give you an idea over what to say in your opening line. Clever eh?

Make sure you can spell
Correct spelling is sexy. Nothing kills flirting dead then reading a message that looks like it’s been written by a 5 year old with a lisp. Do yourself a favour, dust off the dictionary and make sure you can construct a sentence that actually makes sense.

Maybe start with a question
If you’re stuck for something to say, this is when reading the profile can save your bacon as you can use it as a jumping off point for a question. So, if they say they’re into spanking, you could open by saying “With or without a paddle?” Not wholly original, but you get the idea.

Think outside of the box
I hate this phrase…mostly because it is actually very true. People (women especially), will repeatedly get the same types of message and it’s very boring reading things like “Wow you’re so hot!” over and over again. The online dating first email is your ticket to a great date or another night in with a bottle of wine and/or a bottle of hand cream.

Don’t write an epic
As clever as you think you may sound, telling someone about years 0-15 of your life isn’t going to win you an Oscar, let alone a reply from your potential date. Keep it brief, keep it fun and keep it flirty!

If you can, say something funny
Nothing provokes a response like a good chuckle. If you can make someone laugh in your first message then you’ve baited, hooked and have only to reel in.

Okay, so now you’ve got a few pointers to get you started. Before I go, I’ll leave you with some examples of the best and worst first messages sent via online dating sites. All the best examples got responses and dates. All the worst examples got ignored.

It should give you more of an idea over what to do and what not to do.

Enjoy, have fun and remember; be clever!

SUCCESS
In her profile, she had written that she’s 5.11 and will not date anyone shorter then her
His opening line:
“I’m an inch taller then you, but you’d probably f**k me over the moment you stepped into a pair of high heels”
Her response:
“Ha Ha! It’s a good thing I don’t wear stilettos that often then! You sound like fun. How’s it going?”

In her profile, she had written that she ‘loves travelling and seeing new places
His opening line:
“When you say you love travelling, you really mean you like to go on holiday a lot don’t you?”
Her response:
“ You rumbled me! Ha ha ha! No seriously I do like to travel. With a rucksack and everything. I’m not just a beach babe.”

FAIL
In her profile, she had written that she is a divorced mother of one looking to date and have some fun
His opening line:
“hey i know i am young but you are hot and i have always wanted to f**k a milf so if you are interested hit me up…i apologize if you aren’t that type of person but if you are then great!”
Her response:
None

In her profile, she had written that she works for Yahoo News
His opening line:
“Sorry –I know this is a really bizarre question, but do you think you could give me a shout if any editorial positions are available at Yahoo?”
Her response:
None

In her profile, she had written that she works as a pharmacist
His opening line:
“I don’t feel well.”
Her response:
“Go see a doctor then.”

Check out Summer on F-Buddy

jeni — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 17:02:00 +0000

18 Feb 2013 - 17:02 | Tags: adult dating, f-buddy, find sex in Australia, fuck buddy, horny, No strings, online dating, root, sex, sex chat

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Meet Lilly on F-Buddy

jeni — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 19:23:00 +0000

6 Feb 2013 - 19:23 | Tags: adult chat, adult dating, australia, f-buddy, free site, fuck buddy, No strings attached, online dating, sex

F-Buddy Australia has heaps of hot girls including this one. Meet Lilly, she's new to F-Buddy and still a little nervous. Why not give her a very warm welcome, boys! Lilly works and studies full time so she has a pretty busy schedule, however, she can still find time for a bit of naughty fun! Having always been in long term relationships Lilly is currently enjoying her single status but missing the sex. Fancy helping her out?

If you fancy having a bit of fun with Lilly why not sign up to F-Buddy Australia today or log in to your account and send her a message.