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The many flavours of sex

EdBennett — Mon, 17 Oct 2016 18:26:45 +0000

17 Oct 2016 - 19:26 | Tags: sex chat, sex is great, sex

Okay so firstly let’s establish one thing as fact – ALL sex is good sex. Yes you are thinking “what are you talking about? I’ve had bad sex before?!” It is all a point of comparison. If you are having lots of sex, and it is good, then having sex that is not as good to you may well come across as “bad”. However to someone who hasn’t had sex in ages, any sex is great sex. Any drink to the thirsty man is the wine of the gods to him. So if you are lucky enough to be thinking you had bad sex, you didn’t really, you’ve just had better sex in your time so by your warped standards you are dissatisfied with it. All sex is good sex, there is no bad sex. Just different flavors. Like ice cream. Everyone likes ice cream, right?

So there are all sorts of different flavors that you can get. There is comfortable regular sex, the kind with someone you have slept with a million times before, then there is first time awkward sex, when you are still feeling each other out (or feeling each other up!). There is skilled smooth sex, there rough and ready sex. There is rushed, quick needy sex, there is slow steamy take your time sex. There is teasing sex, tough love sex, tiny penis sex, tiny vagina sex, hard sex, painful sex, gentle sex. There is sex where it is just throw away fucking, then there is also meaningful love sex, when you are trying to express more than will ever come across in a small space of time. There is cold sex, there is hard sex, there is warm and comforting sex like a big hug. Sex can be used as a way of building confidence, of making someone feel great about themselves and the people around them. It can also be used as a tool of abuse, of genuine (not playful) punishment. It can be deployed to cause as much lasting pain and hurt as it can pleasure. Sex is like a blank piece of paper – it is untapped potential. That paper can be used to write everything from a love letter to a suicide note. It’s versatility is unlimited.

If you think that your sex has gotten old and tired, perhaps it is just because you have stopped exploring. You have ceased to push the boundaries of what can be discovered through it. Get going, and try and change the flavor of sex. You won’t regret it.

Girls dressed demure or explicitly – they all want sex on their terms

EdBennett — Wed, 28 Oct 2015 09:16:48 +0000

28 Oct 2015 - 09:16 | Tags: sex, horny, horny women

There is this belief that in a club, if you see a girl wearing very little material and flashing a lot of skin, that she is looking for someone to sleep with. That if you are looking to hit on someone, you want to go with the girl in the short skirt first over the girl in the ankle length dress if you are looking for an easy fuck. Well I am hear to set the story straight.

If a girl goes out to a club deliberately wearing clothes that show off her best assets, that allow people to see the fine figure that she has, the curve of her breasts, the voluptuousness of her firm yet supple behind, is she looking to get some attention from the opposite sex? Yes of course she is! Does that mean she would love to sleep with someone? Yes it probably does... but that is because that most women if they are not getting any at the time would rather be sleeping with someone than not sleeping with someone!

So lets now take another girl, same night club. She is there in a long ankle length skirt, with a top that covers her shoulders and her hair in a pony tail. You can clearly see that were she to let her hair down then it would likely flow down and across her shoulders in a most seductive way – she has chosen not to in this case. So the same questions I ask, is she looking to get some attention from the opposite sex? Yes she probably still is! Just because she is not as confidant with her own body to show it off in the same way, does not mean that she doesn’t have the same needs and desires as the girl who is being far more forward with how she looks.

Does she want to sleep with someone? I would say she probably wants to sleep with someone just as much as the other girl! Her way of expressing herself is more shy perhaps, but again what she wants could be just as explicit.

My point here I think is that how a girl dresses is not a reflection of whether she would love to be getting some sex from someone she would enjoy sleeping with. Yes some girls are more comfortable showing off more skin, but whether they choose to show more or less on the dance floor, there truly is an equality of potential sexual desire inside everyone equally. Remember this next time you see a girl you fancy, and consider just going up to her and saying hello, regardless of what she is wearing.

Start with Sex then date afterwards – The RIGHT way to do this

EdBennett — Sun, 20 Sep 2015 14:33:55 +0000

20 Sep 2015 - 15:33 | Tags: sex, sex is great, friends with benefits

People are doing this the wrong way around. They are dating then having sex afterwards. I say have the sex first then move to the dating second, and here is why.

Traditionally the standard male to female courting process goes like this:

• Zero Hour: See a girl that you like

• Month One: Approach the girl, try and be nice to her whilst hiding your nerves

• Month Two: You are now on comfortable speaking terms, try and get the courage up to ask her out, failing each time to get to the point, despite your best rehearsed-in-the-mirror plans to do so.

• Month Three: Finally pluck up the courage to ask the girl out to dinner and she says yes, or failing that you've gone out on a social night, you get drunk and eventually kiss the girl! Either way you have made it to the point where you are now clear that you like the girl and she has agreed to graciously allow you to spend your money buying her dinner.

• Month Four: You go on multiple dinner dates, you are building a really nice rapport and connection, and you both love spending time with each other. You haven’t got to the point of sleeping with each other yet, and you are hesitant to be too pushy about it as you want to be a nice guy and not scare her away.

• Month Five/Six: You finally do it! You have sex with each other! And it is....
... and this is where it gets interesting. Perhaps it is great sex, in which case stop reading now there is no issue. However what is more likely is that you are sexually incompatible and it wasn't that brilliant.

The issue here is that people find change hard. There is an old cliché “I love you now change” . People do not change that easily, and if you end up with some with whom you cannot have not have a mind blowing night with, then this relationship is now in trouble. In a standard monogamous relationship, you can only sleep with each other, so now if you keep dating this person you are committing to bad sex for potentially the rest of your life. The worst part of this is that it has taken you up to 6 months to get there and find out!

Start with the sex first. If it doesn't work for you in bed, then you know nice and early and both you and your partner can move on before you have invested months into trying to build a relationship that was doomed to failure from the start.

Playing the numbers game – from sex to soul mates

Visitor — Sat, 12 Sep 2015 17:48:26 +0000

12 Sep 2015 - 18:48 | Tags: sex, online dating algorithms

Thanks to television and films, mostly romantic comedies, we believe that finding someone to sleep with or even date is an act of fate. It is something that will just come along and we need do nothing to help it happen. Wrong. This is the lie that we are sold. Whether it is sex we are looking for or a soul mate, some of this is a numbers game.

I saw this short film recently called “Less than one” which I will embed below. It is about finding a “soul mate” – the interesting thing about this is that it charts the numbers game, and this is something that you need to do too. Not everyone that you meet in life is going to want to hang out with you, just as not everyone that you talk to on this website is going to want to sleep with you. People are all so different, and some people make the mistake of thinking that the solution to this is to try and change into someone that the person will want to sleep with. Again, wrong approach. The answer is in finding the people with whom you can connect with, where there is chemistry for both of you. This is where the numbers game comes into play.

Say one in twenty people are going to find you attractive, and I think that is a reasonable number. This works both ways so now let us say that of those people you are only going to also fancy one in twenty back. This means that the odds of finding someone that drives you completely nuts is only one in four hundred. You want to meet someone who makes you want to grab them and throw them against a wall, who brings out the primal inner hunger to not just have intercourse, but have real down and dirty sex, to do not just in the bed, but on sofa, against the hallway wall, down on the floor because you couldn’t contain yourself long enough to make it to the bedroom. Equally they want to find someone that makes them feel exactly the same. That makes them want to tear your clothes off and have theirs ripped from their bodies equally as fast.

Finding this level of chemistry is indeed a numbers game. If you have to expose yourself to 400 people to find it at this level, then doing so in day to day life seems near impossible... which is where this website comes into its own. When you start messaging people focus on getting your numbers up, because if you persevere and keep messaging people till you find someone that you *really* want to have sex with, then you will find some measure of real ecstasy your shared nights together.

Libido in Autumn

EdBennett — Sun, 12 Jul 2015 10:53:39 +0000

12 Jul 2015 - 11:53 | Tags: libido in Autumn, sexual libido, sex, casual sex

You would often think of summer being the best months for sex. Usually you’d be right as the rays make people wear less, see more and want more. The hungry desire for some hot sex in the summer is present in most of our lives. Yet what about the other months? What about the colder months of the year? Surprisingly these are some of the hottest months for sex with women’s libidos in particular charging ahead at full steam. So what exactly is it about autumn and winter that inspires this particular phenomenon?

What Happens

1. Testosterone Levels Increase
This applies to both men and women. The hormone that drives our mating instinct goes into overdrive in the autumn months with men and women getting the strong desire to fuck like bunnies.
2. You are more attractive
That’s not poetic license – during the autumn months you really do become more attractive to the opposite sex with the increase in testosterone contributing to that fact.
3. Women are at prime fertility
This goes some way in explaining the female increase in libido. Ironically sperm counts in men are at their lowest due to the hot summer months. Just remember to use condoms!
4. Love is in the air
More breaks ups and hook ups happen in the summer that at any other time. Whilst hook ups continue in the autumn months, break ups become less and less. Hormones are in the air.
5. Feeling cold activates a yearning for body warmth
The colder it gets the more we want the comfort of another person’s body. This leads to increases in date nights and long warm sex sessions in front of a fire.
6. Food turns you on
More accurately; hot food turns us on more in the autumn. The whiff of steak or stews or pies gets us all thrusting our hands down our boxers or panties. Again the hormone levels go off the charts.
7. Sexual Anticipation is Renewed
Summer is usually when things slow down (as well as speed up if you’re on holiday), so when you return to the day to day life, your sexual appetite is stronger. You are hungrier for sex.

Alcoholic Sex

EdBennett — Mon, 29 Jun 2015 10:05:41 +0000

29 Jun 2015 - 11:05 | Tags: sex & alcohol, casual sex, alcohol effects, sex

Dutch courage, lowering inhibition, need to relax…how many times have we all said or heard these phrases in a bar or club? We say them just before we take a deep glug from a wine, beer or spirit glass. We think that alcohol will give us the courage we need to have sex with the woman or man we want without fear of not being able to perform. Yet many studies have shown that too much alcohol can bugger up our sex drives. So what’s the deal with alcoholic sex? Should we be having more or less of it?

Lowering Inhibition
If you are a naturally shy or nervous person when it comes to sex, you might actually feel that alcohol is just the thing to help you unzip your trousers and get on with the job. This can be a good thing especially when it comes to casual sex. Excitement at having sex with someone for the first time is often coupled with nerve wracking worry. What if I can’t get it up? What if I come too soon? What I can’t make them come? What if I give a really shit blowjob? A glass of wine or beer can help relax the mood and make you both enjoy the experience more.

When is it too much?
About the time you feel like passing out is about the time you need to consider that perhaps you’ve drunk too much. Alcohol can inhibit as well as release sexual desire. You need to slow down the drinking if you feel more like sleeping then having sex.

Can it help you get it up?
A survey conducted in Australia back in 2009 concluded that men who drank a moderate amount where 30% less likely to have erectile problems than men who drank little to no alcohol. I can safely say with my hand on my heart that a few glasses of wine or beer can sometimes keep me going at it for hours on end, whereas if I’m stone cold sober, I might run out of steam sooner than expected.

Moderation is key
As always moderation is the key to success with anything. If you drink too much, you will pass out on your partner. If you drink nothing or not a lot, then your nerves might get the better of you. Moderation seems to be a strong potential alternative.

Australian Sex Habits 2015

EdBennett — Sun, 24 May 2015 11:37:41 +0000

24 May 2015 - 12:37 | Tags: sex habits, australian sex habits, casual sex, sex, hook up

In 2014 a census was published by a dating site detailing the average sex habits of the average Australian. It turns out that what profession you’re in can have an impact on the amount and type of sex you have over your lifetime. The survey conducted across an array of different age groups and professions concluded that people in certain professions, had more sex than others.

The Breakdown
Aussies working in the legal industry are the most satisfied sexually according to the census, with 54.5% reporting that they enjoyed their sex life. At the other end of the pendulum, 44% of the IT and telecommunications industries reported being dissatisfied with their sex lives. It turns out that you shouldn’t work on computers or with mobile phones if you want to have better sex.

Estate agents have always had a pretty slutty reputation, but even I was surprised by 44.7% reporting that they had slept with at least 21 people over their lifetime. Must be all those viewings they do.

If you work in finance then you might be embarrassed to know that most of the respondents in this section admitted to lasting very little time at all during sex, with many attributing fatigue and stress at work as the main cause. Having met some accountants, I’m inclined to believe this.

Does it mean anything?
Well I always take the results of any survey with a pinch of salt. It is a cross section that the survey covers rather than the whole, and we all know that you can’t judge a population based on the actions of a mere few.

Should you worry?
Only you can answer that question. Whilst there are professions that seem to expose workers more to sex, it doesn’t mean they have the best sex there is to have. If you think you’re not getting enough sex, or not having good enough sex, then it doesn’t really matter what professions you’re in. Only you can do something about that. Being on f-buddy is a good start, but actions speak louder than intentions. Start messaging some buddies and see if you can strike up a connection.

Swimming costume or Bikini and Thong?

EdBennett — Sat, 16 May 2015 10:55:23 +0000

16 May 2015 - 11:55 | Tags: bathing costumes, swimsuit, bikini, thong, sex, casual sex for men

I don’t know about you, but both swimming costumes and bikinis tend to drive me wild. A swimming costume can look absolutely stunning on a woman. Similarly a bikini can have me drooling onto the floor if a woman walks by in it. But the sad truth of the matter is that women who wear the most revealing costumes are often the ones you would rarely date unless you got really lucky. However just because you don’t think you can get a girl in a stunning costume or thong, doesn’t mean you won’t. Women like to show off just as much as men sometimes. But the question remains; swimming costume or bikini and thong?

Swimming Costume – Benefits
It shows off a woman’s curves without revealing too much. Your mind is left to imagine what’s underneath the costume. The right kind of swimming costume can have a man thanking God that he’s male. The wrong kind of swimming costume can have a man walking quickly the other way. Some fashions allow for unflattering swimming costumes. If a woman is curvy she should have a tight fitting swimming costume to show off her curves.

Swimming Costume – Negatives
A poorly fitting costume can show hardly anything at all and leaves no room for the imagination. Similarly if a woman is wearing the wrong type of costume that covers too much or not enough, it’s not very sexy.

Bikini and Thong – Positives
It shows lots of skin. We love skin! It shows off a lot without showing everything. The smallest of bikini bottoms can have me salivating with lust. The thong on the right ass can be manna from heaven. It just makes you want to have sex right there and then.

Bikini and Thong – Negatives
Let’s face it – most of us aren’t made to wear revealing costumes. Sometimes we do it without even thinking but soon realise that we should have tried something else. Plus some women describe wearing a thong as like having anal floss up there ass. Urrgghh!

Make your choice!
To be honest if an f-buddy walks into the room wearing either a swimsuit of a bikini, I’m probably going to want to have sex with them. The choice therefore dear reader is yours.

How To Be The Perfect Fuck Buddy

EdBennett — Sun, 26 Apr 2015 10:08:59 +0000

26 Apr 2015 - 11:08 | Tags: fuck buddies, how to be the perfect fuck buddy, casual sex, sex

Having a fuck buddy can mean different things to different people. Some people define a fuck buddy as just someone to have sex with once in a while. Others define a buddy as someone to have sex with but to also occasionally hang out with and help out with household stuff. The problem people often have with choosing a fuck buddy is that their definitions often differ. Below is a quick guide on how to be the perfect f-buddy, ensuring that you get the best out of any situation.

1. The Approach – Be Direct and Honest
The good thing about F-Buddy is that you can message someone you like the look of without the worry of wondering if they’re interested in sex or not. This isn’t a typical dating site. People aren’t here to ‘go out with someone and see how it goes’. People are here to hook up and have sex. The first piece of advice is to be direct with the people you’re messaging. Too many mistakes and complications arise by people not being honest with one another.

2. Find Out Where Your Partner Stands
Leading on from the being honest advice, it is important to find out what your partner wants. Is it just sex, or do they want to hang out as well? Finding out these details are crucial before you start having sex. It will prevent either party from getting hurt further down the line.

3. Don’t be Aggressive
This might work in the bedroom, but it will definitely not work on the approach. You need to be respectful of your potential buddy. Why would they want to sleep with someone acting like a cock?

4. Tell people about yourself
Explain why you’re on the site. Give a little background as to what’s happened in your life, whether or not you’ve just come out of a relationship, or if you just fancy being single and care free for a while. If people judge you then they’re idiots and not the right f-buddy for you. Most of the time though, you find that other people have a similar background and like to talk about it.

5. Don’t give up
A lot of people just give up the first time they get a knockback. Can you imagine what would happen to the human race if we all did that all the time? We wouldn’t get anywhere at all. Don’t let a negative response or no response get you down.

Top 10 Health Benefits Sex Brings

EdBennett — Thu, 05 Mar 2015 15:41:52 +0000

5 Mar 2015 - 15:41 | Tags: health benefits, sex, casual sex

We all like sex, we all crave sex, we all need sex! So it’s nice to know that in addition to being really fun, sex has many health perks as well. Stand prepared and gird your loins for the top health benefits sex can bring to your life.

1. Boosts your Immune System
Sex can help boost your antibody count which is good. Antibodies fight off infections and any other nasty things that like to make you ill or rundown. More sex = better immune system.

2. Boosts a Woman’s Bladder Control
Sounds funny but the more sex a woman has, the greater her bladder control becomes. A strong pelvic floor helps to fight incontinence in later life and helps strengthen the muscles needed in child birth. When a woman has an orgasm it causes the pelvic muscles to contract which strengthens them.

3. Increases Libido
Less sex means your body has a lower libido. More sex increases the libido.

4. Lowers blood pressure
Like all relaxation activity, sex will lower your blood pressure. Just more so.

5. Lowers the risk of a heart attack
Sex increases your heart rate and gets the blood pumping. This helps to unclog blocked arteries lowering your risk of a heart attack in later life.

6. Like the gym but more fun
Yep, sex counts as exercise. The more vigorous the better.

7. Can reduce the chances of prostate cancer in men
The prostate controls and regulates ejaculation and a study found that a man who ejaculates more than 21 times a month is less likely to develop prostate cancer. To be fair you don’t have to have sex to do this, but having sex is more fun than masturbating.

8. Lowers stress levels
If you’ve been stressed out at work or at home, sex can greatly reduce the levels. Endorphins flood the body during sex and have a calming and relaxed effect.

9. Improves your sleep
You’ll always get a better night’s sleep after a good sex session. It relaxes your body which prepares you for sleep.

10. Good for pain
Sounds bizarre, but not that much when you think about it. The more endorphins are released into your body, the lower your pain level becomes.