How to establish a fuck buddy relationship at work

EdBennett — Thu, 29 Sep 2022 23:25:11 +0000

30 Sep 2022 - 00:25 | Tags: affairs at work, office sex

Work can be an excellent place to find a fuck buddy, and if you do manage to get one, the rewards of doing so are huge. Firstly you get all the extra excitement of sleeping with someone in the office and trying to keep it quiet for as long as possible. The sneaking around, the talking to each other over the office cooler without giving off the vibe that you are into each other, the arranging clandestine meetings in the stationary cupboard or after work in a local drinking hole that you both “happen” to be in at the same time, alone without anyone else. It is all very fun.

You then have the sex on tap advantage. If you want a quickie, well your fuck buddy is in the same building and can be there to service you within minutes rather than hours. The opportunities that open themselves up when your fuck buddy works at the same place are surprising, varied and plentiful! Then of course there are the work events. For the first time, you know you are going to get laid at the end of the Christmas party regardless of how it all goes. Get in! So with all those advantages, how exactly can you establish a work place fuck buddy? All me to elaborate.

Step 1 – locate your target.

You need to decide who you would like to sleep with. If you are a man and you are able to, I would suggest having a few options. Sex, love and romance is a numbers game to a degree so being able to increase the odds in your favour by having multiple options you would be happy with is helpful. Also, it allows you to play the jealousy game a little as well, where one person starts to vie for your attention because you are also getting it from other women. That always helps.

Step 2 – regular contact.

The more we see and speak to someone the more we feel comfortable with them. Saying hi to your desired (wo)man every day for a couple of minutes is stronger than an hour long conversation once a month. Little and often is the way.

Step 3 – make your move

You now need to hit on them. There is no substitute for this, you just have to take a leap of faith knowing that if it doesn’t work, you lose nothing. So ask them out the two of you, establish if they are single, if there is a Christmas or other office party, that is a good place to flirt a lot with them. Make the jump!

It really is as simple as that. Good luck amigo, and have fun.

Affairs at Work: Ever A Good Idea?

jeni — Mon, 20 May 2013 19:36:54 +0000

20 May 2013 - 20:36 | Tags: affairs, affairs at work, office romance

On average we spend only 35 waking hours a week at home compared to an average of 40-45 hours at the office. Based on these statistics it is hardly surprising that the more time people spend at work, the more time they spend with colleagues and the more time they spend getting to know these colleagues well…sometimes intimately well. The office affair has been and still is common place. But is it ever a good idea?

“Sex with my co-worker is amazing! Unlike my wife where sex is considered an inconvenience and interruption to life, my lover doesn’t consider it a chore. We’re both married and we both don’t want anything other than sex from each other. Is it difficult working with her? Not really because we decided early on the ground rules of the relationship meaning we never slip up or act differently in front of our colleagues.”
Josh, 30

For Josh, an affair at work has been a useful and from the sounds of it necessary release from a marriage that isn’t giving him everything that he needs. What about the other side of the coin?

“My wife found out I was having an affair with a woman at work through one of my work colleagues. I didn’t even know they knew about it! The woman I was with only wanted casual sex on the side of her marriage and ended up talking to some of the other girls in the office about it. I wanted more and now I’ve lost my wife, access to my kids and my home. I wish I could turn back the clock.”
Jean-Claude, 52

Jean-Claude has demonstrated something in his account that anyone thinking of having an affair should take note of: wanting the same thing from an affair.

In Josh’s case both he and his lover have approached their affair from the same perspective: they laid out the ground rules from the start and have enjoyed an extra-marital relationship that (for the moment) is giving them both something that they weren’t getting from their spouses.

The Key
From the accounts we have seen it seems there are some wise lessons to be learnt if you wish to conduct an affair with someone at work.

1. Before doing anything, lay out the ground rules from the start. Make sure each of you knows exactly what you want from the affair and are approaching it from the same perspective.
2. Be aware of your environment: the office space is gossip space. You might think you’re being clandestine when you’re actually displaying your affair in open view.
3. Someone will get hurt: It could be you. It could be them. It could be your spouse. It could be all three. An affair is called an affair for a reason. Don’t be fooled and don’t fool yourself.

Whether or not an affair is right or wrong is not for us to say. Only you can decide.

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How to establish a fuck buddy relationship at work

Step 1 – locate your target.

Step 2 – regular contact.

Step 3 – make your move

Affairs at Work: Ever A Good Idea?