Is there more than 1 type of Casual Sex?

EdBennett — Thu, 28 May 2015 10:57:20 +0000

28 May 2015 - 11:57 | Tags: casual sex, f-buddy, casual sex rules of engagement, casual sex rules

According to www.divinecaroline.com there are at least 13 different types of casual sex. Whilst I let your mind race away with you about what they could be, let me begin by saying the chances are you’ve probably had at least several types of different casual sex. Gone are the days where sex was confined to the marital bed and the often-happened-never-discussed extra-marital affair. It’s now 2015 and casual sex has been making great strides in the past decade. In the US a magazine reported that people across the states are far more relaxed about casual sex than they were a year ago. The same is reported around several other countries across the globe including Ireland and the UK.

But just what types of casual sex are there?

The different types of casual sex
Hold onto yourself (within reason). Here are the 13 types reported:

1. Rec Sex
2. Booty Call Sex
3. Appointment Sex
4. Ex-Sex
5. Cereal Sex
6. Deja Sex
7. Drive-through Sex
8. Mercy Sex
9. Comfort Sex
10. Occasion Sex
11. Palate Cleansing Sex
12. Temp Sex
13. Hate Sex

Did you get all that? Good, because my head’s still reeling from some of the summaries. It took me a while to figure out what mercy sex was. When I realised it basically meant having sex with someone you’re not really attracted to but feel sorry for, I shamefully realised I’ve done that. Comfort sex everyone has done: sex after a bad break up. You just want to feel the warmth of another body. It doesn’t really matter who’s it is. However just like a cheeseburger or kebab, it might feel good at the time, but you end up feeling a bit shit in the morning.

Cereal sex was another one I got confused about, but then I realised it’s just a clever name for one night stands: delicious and filling for about an hour but then you realise you’re still hungry a few hours later. Deja Sex was another one I got confused about, until I explored further and realised it’s basically sex with someone you weren’t planning on having sex with again. A few drinks later and you’re in bed together.

My eyes are opened…
So there you have it. Even if you don’t think you’ve engaged in casual sex, the chances are you have but just haven’t realised it at the time. Nothing to be embarrassed about – I didn’t realise I’d had Palate Cleansing sex until recently.

Casual Sex: Rules of Engagement!

jeni — Wed, 05 Jun 2013 11:19:46 +0000

5 Jun 2013 - 12:19 | Tags: casual sex rules of engagement

Western culture places enormous power on sexual monogamy over casual sex. That reason alone has caused equally enormous disagreement over whether or not casual sex has any rules of engagement just as a long term monogamous relationship does.

The answer is a resounding ‘yes!’

A casual relationship is still a relationship, but in order to learn the rules of engagement we have to define the different types of relationships. People are complicated so it’s very important to know what kind of sex you’re getting into bed for.

The Friend With Benefits
The friend with benefits is typically a casual relationship that has developed from a pre-existing friendship. The rules of engagement for this vary but there are some consistencies that should be noted:

1. If you already have a pre-existing friendship, then you should both be clear that having sex does not mean it will lead to a deeper relationship…even if that possibility is there

2. If one of you meets someone knew, then as a friend you should tell your FWB. It does not spell the end of your casual sex with them – many people still have casual sex on the side whilst dating someone new. Honesty is what makes all the difference

3. Do not hang out with your FWB regularly outside of sex. Again this depends on the type of FWB relationship you have, but generally spending time together outside of the bedroom can sometimes lead one party into believing there is something more, even when there isn’t

4. You don’t have to sleep over. In fact it is healthier to have sex and then have one of you leave right after. Post coital cuddling (and after sex chatting!) can often lead to someone getting hurt because they think there’s something more then there is

5. Practice safe sex

6. Be clear about what you both want at the start

The One Night Stand
1. As this usually happens after meeting a cute guy/girl in a bar, there is really only one rule: leave when both of you are done. If you’re after a quick fuck then there’s no point in pretending it’s more then it is. Sleeping over is fine, but if one of you is still there after breakfast you could be going into deeper territory…

2. Practice safe sex

The Fuck Buddy
1. You are there for one reason: to fuck. No chit chat (although dirty talk and flirting is fine), no dinner, no flowers and no obligation.

2. Don’t second guess anything. Again; you’re there to have sex, not to ask questions like “Is this going anywhere?”

3. Be adult about the situation. You’re not lovers. You’re fuck buddies. You are there to fulfil a physical need that everyone has. Nothing to be embarrassed about. Just be honest about the situation.

4. Practice safe sex

5. Be clear about these rules right from the start

Whilst there are subtle differences to each form of casual sex, there are similarities the two key ones being:

- Practice safe sex
- Be very clear about what you both want from the beginning

So bear these in mind…and we wish you happy and safe fucking.

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Is there more than 1 type of Casual Sex?

Casual Sex: Rules of Engagement!