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What to text the day after

EdBennett — Sun, 30 Oct 2022 23:46:37 +0000

30 Oct 2022 - 23:46 | Tags: how to talk dirty in a text, texting

Welcome to the fuck buddy website the place where we help you find a fuck buddy for mutual benefits (without the strings). Today we are talking about what you can text the day after having had a hook up to see if your fuck buddy of the night before might be interested in, well, doing it again!

Finding a fuck buddy can be straightforward. With the advent of online dating, meeting someone has never been easier. Whilst messaging remains the strongest way to meet someone, you can even reach for a swipe based app if you need to lower the barrier to entry further. This means you are going to be meeting a number of people, some of whom you might sleep with once but then not really want to sleep with again. There will come along someone that you would like to see again. This might be simply because you had a really great time and you want more of the same. It might also be because the sex itself wasn’t mind blowing, but the whole thing feels like it has a lot of potential and you want to explore it more. First time sex can be hard and it can take a few to get it going. So, if you want to see someone again, you need to text. If you are not sure what to open with or say, why no give one of these recommended next day openers to see if they can help?

“I want more!”

(if the sex was okay)

This is a strong move but this in itself is going to help you. Confidence is an attractive trait. The more confident you are, the more likely they are to want to come back for more. People also want to be wanted, and this sends a good, but not stated message, that you want them. It is also short and there is something quite powerful about sending short messages. This is a solid choice.

“You did something legendary to me last night”

(if the sex was great!)

This has to be used with care. If the sex was average you cannot send this. They will know the truth of the matter and will sense the lack of honesty it this if it lacks truth. So if it was okay sex do not send this. However, if, in fact, the sex was genuinely amazing and they did do something special, lean into this and go for it! It will land really well.

SMS, WhatsApp, Signal and Threema messages to send to your fuck buddy the day afterwards

EdBennett — Sun, 30 Oct 2022 23:32:39 +0000

30 Oct 2022 - 23:32 | Tags: how to talk dirty in a text, texting

When it comes to adult dating, texting and instant messaging are now a staple part of the courtship ritual. Of course, nothing beats in person contact or face to face meetings, but in order to make those meetings happen you have to accept that communication using the written word is necessary. We no longer live in a world where you just pick up a phone and call someone, you really do text, WhatsApp, or for the more security-minded perhaps you are using Threema or Signal instead. Regardless of the platform that you are using, texting (or sexting) is now the way that you make things happen.

So let us say it is the day after your first hook up with a particular fuck buddy. The first time isn’t always mind blowing or amazing, so perhaps you had an alright time but are interested in meeting up again to explore that further… or maybe you were lucky and it really was mind blowing! Regardless, if you want to meet up again the first step the next day is to drop a message. So, what message should you send? Well, if you are unsure, here are our top suggestions on the kinds of texts that you might like to send the day after.

“That was extraordinary. What should we do next time?”

Flattery is always a good choice when it comes to the day after text message… but breaking this down further, this is a bold and brave choice. You are putting yourself out there because if your friend with benefits does not feel the same, you have left yourself vulnerable. Here is the thing though, if they don’t want to meet up again there is nothing that you can say that is going to change their mind, so you may as well be bold and brave with it. Furthermore, bravery is attractive and they are more likely to want to come back and see you, so go for it!

“I can’t stop thinking about the moment when you….”

This is a situational suggestion. If there was not a moment where they did something that you can refer to, then do not use this! Never make something up, you have to refer to a real action. If they did do something that you really liked, then this is a strong choice.

Ultimately you can say almost anything, but if you are stuck cut and paste one of these in and it will stand you in good stead.

How and When to Dirty Text

jeni — Sat, 15 Jun 2013 14:35:06 +0000

15 Jun 2013 - 15:35 | Tags: how to talk dirty in a text

We’ve talked about sexting before on this blog so now we want to talk about dirty texting and how to do it. There are still many opinions on the net as to what the exact differences between sexting and dirty texting are. Put simply, dirty texting is a way of creating arousal in a fuck buddy before you even meet. If you can give your f-buddy an orgasm before you’ve even met them, then they will automatically associate that pleasure with you. This creates a level of attraction that will blow your mind…as well as other things.

What is a dirty text?

Before we begin listing examples it is really important to highlight one key point: everyone is different so you will have to adapt your dirty texts by reading and listening to the texts you get back from your potential fuck buddy. Some call the initial messaging ‘Priming the Pump’. When you first start texting a potential f-buddy this is a good opportunity to gauge what kind of sex language they respond well to. Some people call it ‘foresext’.

Let’s look at a few examples to help illustrate this point;

Girl Texts
“I love the missionary position, it just feels so good”

This is what we call ‘positive sex talk’ and it gives you an idea of how to respond. An example would be

Guy responds
“I know what you mean, but don’t you think it feels even better when you build up to it slowly? Personally I would start by running my hands just above the surface of the skin on your neck from behind…”

From here on it is important for the guy to break his response down into short texts. This provides anticipation in the woman and works to show that the guy isn’t going to blow his load right away. For example;

“…before sliding them down your arms whilst biting your neck gently…”
“…as I reach your thighs I’ll push you down slowly onto your back as I move my mouth over the skin on your chest…”
“…kissing the area around your nipples…”
“…before moving further down towards your stomach…”
“…I then hover for a second over your pussy…”
“…before closing my mouth around the skin on your inner thighs, licking and kissing them as my hands continue to caress your nipples moving between them and the area around your belly button…”
“…then slowly as I feel your heart beat getting faster, I part your legs…”
“…and gently use my tongue to tease your pussy…”
“…all the while stroking your chest and the skin around your belly button…”
“…as I lick and nibble at your clit…”
“…then when you can’t stand it anymore…”
“…I straighten up…”
“…pull you firmly towards me by your legs…”
“…and thrust myself slowly into you…”
“…all the while kissing your neck…”
“…pausing between thrusts to chew gently on your nipples…”
“…as your breath gets louder, I slide in deeper…”
“…timing my thrusts with your heart beat…”

Can you see how quickly you can elevate the texting to dirty texting from one simple opening? The most important thing the guy has done is to listen to the woman’s text – she says she likes the missionary position – and responded accordingly. She has already made it clear that she wants to talk about sex. All the guy has done is elevate the texting to dirty texting, describing how he would fuck her in the missionary position. He has created a whole story over what he would do to her using his imagination.

The brain is the most powerful sexual organ we have and it can be used to tease a fuck buddy and have them associate the pleasure of an orgasm with you.

The woman might respond like this:

“I want you to fuck me now.”

If this happens then a good way to respond would be:

“Not yet. I want to play with you a bit more first.”

This kind of response has the potential to drive the woman completely wild and if she hasn’t already gotten herself off, you can be guaranteed she’ll be working hard on it as you text.

This method of texting means that when the two eventually meet up, they have already associated the pleasure of sex with each other. It removes any nervousness that might have occurred without the dirty texting and ensures that both parties will have amazing sex.

Their minds are already prepped because of the dirty texting

Different People, Different Texts
People have often asked us if it’s okay to text things like;

“I’m going to shove my dick into you so far you’ll feel it in your stomach”

“I’m going to fuck you so hard you’ll never want another dick inside you again.”

Is there a time, and a place for these types of dirty texts? Yes, but we would recommend not to start your dirty texting with them. You need to gauge a person’s response to your initial foresexting before you can determine how far you can go. Everyone is different and will react and respond differently to the same text message.

Remember this and have fun!