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Why the male pill would be great for male fuck buddies

EdBennett — Wed, 24 Aug 2022 23:07:49 +0000

25 Aug 2022 - 00:07 | Tags: contraception, fuck buddy safety, safe sex in casual relationships

When engaging with a fuck buddy, you are looking for a no strings attached relationship. One of the cornerstones of the adult dating world is that things are casual, relaxed with none of the super serious stuff that arises in a standard relationship. This means that when you have a friend with benefits, it is exactly that. Not a girlfriend, not a boyfriend, a friend with benefits remains a “friend” in terms of the expectations and potential longevity of the connection and relationship. The one thing that no one wants, is a pregnancy. Many women are on the pill and this deals with the issue, but I think that there is a strong argument for the male “pill” being pushed out, and this is why.

The current contraceptive options for a man

Whilst a woman cannot escape a pregnancy as it is her body that is growing the unborn child, in the modern world a man is still tied financially (if not emotionally and ethically) to a child that he has caused to come into the world. Under new laws, people who anonymously donated sperm now can be tracked down by their genetic children. So as a man, you also have a lot to lose if an unwanted pregnancy occurs. The current options are:

Condoms
A Vasectomy

A vasectomy is a permanent option and should not be taken lightly as the reversal is not guaranteed. If you are sure you never want kids then this is fine, but this is not a good day-to-day solution for most men. Condoms are a wonderful solution. They are mostly guaranteed, give both parties clarity as you both know it is in use, and can also protect you from STDs and diseases should there be one present. A condom can really give confidence, this is good. If you want full skin to skin contact though this can be a problem

The issue for men with a girl taking the pill

It comes down to being in control of the process. Can you be sure she has taken it? What if she forgot that day, or there was some issue with it? As a man you want to be sure that contraception is in play.

The male pill allows men to take responsibility

If the male pill was released, a man could take full responsibility for ensuring long term contraception is in play. He could always be sure that it is there because he is the one taking the pill. A woman can also do the same because there is nothing wrong with the woman also being on the pill. A release of this would be a game changer in the field of contraception.

Can I catch coronavirus from having sex?

EdBennett — Sun, 25 Oct 2020 17:25:01 +0000

25 Oct 2020 - 17:25 | Tags: coronavirus sex, safe sex, fuck buddy safety

If you are reading this, you are likely one of the many people that that is currently experiencing a “reduced” life service right now! You can’t go to all the places that you used to go, you can’t gather in groups that you used to, and your favourite places are shut or closing early. Life is not great right now. There are some basic pleasures that remain to us however. We can still enjoy good food and good meals, as long as we can cook them ourselves that is. We can enjoy relaxing over an evening with a glass of something whilst watching our favourite television program, and we can still have sex with our fuck buddy… or can we? There are many fears about the way that coronavirus is transmitted and whether you can have sex safely. I am here to dispel a lot of the myth and explain it based on the current science or understanding. Please remember that this is a changing area so this may get superseded by new science so it is always best to check for the latest updates.

How the coronavirus is spread

It is passed from person to person through contact with the saliva from the mouth or the nose. This is why masks are important and people are using screens and face shields, to prevented being in contact with other people’s saliva. At the moment there is no science that indicates that the coronavirus can be spread from having sex, either vaginal sex nor anal sex. So does that mean that you can have sex without having to think about catching covid?

Kissing, touching, stroking

It seems the issue is not the actual sex, it is all the things that usually happen before, after and even during the se. It is the kissing which exchanges saliva, and the touching and stroking of the other person that gives the contact that may mean that should they have COVID-19 that they may give it to you. In theory the sex itself is fine.

How to have sex safely

If you or your fuck buddy have symptoms, stay away. Leave it a few days and see if they pass. Whilst we don’t like having to wait to have sex, the wait can sometimes make it sweeter! If you do not have symptoms and you have effectively isolated for the relevant period you can be fairly confident it is safe.

Get your kink on

Have you ever tried to have sex without the kissing and the touching? Without breathing on each other where the only parts that are in contact are your genitals? Now might be the time to give it a try!

So you can have sex… but be careful and stay safe. You want to live to have sex again another day.

Safe words – the what, why and how.

EdBennett — Sat, 20 Aug 2016 20:27:26 +0000

20 Aug 2016 - 21:27 | Tags: fuck buddy safety, safe words, safe sex in casual relationships

You have all had sex in a standard, what many people call “vanilla”, way. You have all done the missionary position. You have all had a range of good to bad sex. If you want to do anything further than this, implementing the use of a safe word can be massively helpful for both you and your partner. To cover this, here are is the what, why and how of how to use safe words.

What is a safe word

Put simply, a safe word is a way of saying “stop”. It is a way to turn off the sex tap, pause the sex tape, pull the ejector seat from the sex plane that you are currently riding all the way to orgasm island. So if you safe word is “timeout” for example, when someone says it, everything stops immediately without question or hesitation.

Why do you need a safe word, they can just say “stop” or “no” can’t they?

Well not always. Depending on the type of sex play that you are doing, the other person may want to (for fun) put up a bit of a struggle. For example you may be play fighting a bit and they may be pushing you away. Usually you would take this as a sign to stop immediately, but you are playing so you know that they are just pushing you as part of this... how do you know this? What if it becomes a real push away – how have you any hope of checking this? Well the answer lies in the safe word. If for them it becomes serious, if they really do want you away or to stop, they can just say the safe word and everything stops. The great thing about this for you is that this also means *you* also don’t have to worry about it. If they haven’t said the safe word, then you are good to keep going and enjoy yourself, and you can do so without fear of mis interpreting anything. Great for both of you – right?

How to implement one

So the last part is choosing your safe word. The key is to pick an easy word to say, but one that is never used naturally during sex. Some people go for something random like “banana” or “star trek”. It doesn’t matter what you use, as long as it is something that you would never use otherwise. I personal would advise something that has a similar meaning, I often recommend the use of the word “timeout” to beginners as it also means what it says – but no one ever uses it day to day. You should choose your safe word together between you, it should be short and easy to say, and you both need to be happy with the choice.

So thats how safe words work. So go out and have some fun – knowing that you will have consent the whole time without fear!

Finding a Fuck Buddy: Some Safety Guidelines

jeni — Mon, 01 Jul 2013 10:06:15 +0000

1 Jul 2013 - 11:06 | Tags: fuck buddy safety

Online dating in general has its own set of safety rules and advice for users to follow. Finding a fuck buddy is a little different from standard internet dating and whilst there are some commonalities with regards to safety, there are also some differences. As such we would like to explain some of the rules we think you should follow. These have been formulated based on our own personal experiences alongside the recommendations of other people who engage in casual sex.

We hope you find them useful and we strongly recommend that you follow them as closely as possible in order to make your experience on f-buddy as safe and fun as it should be.

1. Begin Slowly
This is true of online dating in general, but it has a particular relevance to finding a fuck buddy. On first glance you would think that hopping into bed with the first good looking guy or girl is supposed to be quick. However wouldn’t you want to make sure that your fuck buddy:
a) Looks like their profile picture
b) Can hold a conversation in person and on the phone and matches the personality you’ve read on the profile
c) Isn’t prone to sudden mood swings which can be a dangerous indicator of passive aggressive behaviour – not what you want with casual sex.
Begin all your communication using the f-buddy site. Trust your instincts; if someone just doesn’t feel right, then they probably aren’t.

2. Anonymity Essential
Hold onto this as you would an expensive piece of jewellery. Well thought out and reasoned decisions often lead to better results. If you suspect someone is lying; they probably are. Don’t reveal too many intimate details about yourself online prematurely. Be responsible about casual sex. Don’t open yourself up to being taken advantage of. At the end of the day you probably don’t want your friends, family or colleagues to know about your casual activities, so be smart and protect yourself.

3. Request a Photo
Sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people fail to do this. The initial photo caught your attention and you may have been chatting to your potential fuck buddy online for a while, but if neither of you trust the other enough to share some photos, then it really isn’t going to go anywhere and you will never know if the person is legitimate or not. We would recommend trying to see several images of someone both by themselves and in casual settings – it helps prove that they are a real human being and not some internet troll out to rip you off or expose you to people. If the other person keeps making excuses then they probably aren’t on the level and have something to hide. A good way to ensure you are talking to a real person (and this ties in with our next point) is to arrange a web cam or video call anonymously. You can both set up accounts under whatever usernames you choose.

4. Talk to the buddy on the phone or on the computer
This ties everything neatly together. You get to see what the other person looks like and see if they can actually hold a verbal conversation effectively. Good communication leads to good sex. You can tell a lot about a person this way and assess their social skills. If the potential fuck buddy isn’t willing then they probably aren’t who they say they are. Report their profile to us and move on.

5. Ready to meet? Only when you’re ready.
You can collect information about a person gradually online which is great as it gives you time to know whether or not you want to strip off and fuck their brains out. Don’t meet up if you have any reservations about the person. Protect yourself and your identity.

6. Meet somewhere safe
Okay so you want to fuck. That’s fine, but we would still recommend meeting in a public place with plenty of other people there just to do a final assessment on one another. If you’re worried about bumping into someone you know from work or from wherever there are 2 things you can do:
a) Arrange to meet somewhere you know it is highly unlikely you will run into someone you know.
b) Or you can meet wherever and if you do run into someone you know, just say you’re meeting someone for a date. Which in a very real sense you are. As we’ve said before, there is nothing to be ashamed about here, but if you are worried about people you know finding out, then you can explain it away easily.

We’re going to talk more about fuck buddy safety tips on a regular basis. It is important all our members feel safe and secure when they use this site and it never hurts to refresh the memory every now and then.

Happy fucking!