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Finding The O

jeni — Mon, 22 Feb 2021 08:00:00 +0000

22 Feb 2021 - 08:00 | Tags: finding orgasms, making women orgasm

As a guy having an orgasm is pretty easy. Hell, we can probably jerk ourselves off twenty times before breakfast and still have enough left in the tank for brunch. Making a woman have an orgasm – and we mean a proper orgasm – has often been likened to climbing Mount Everest, with a car strapped to your back, wearing nothing but a pair of swim shorts in minus 30 degrees. Basically it often feels like an uphill struggle with a massive weight of responsibility coupled with performance anxiety that can leave the woman cold.

But is it really that difficult to make a woman come or are we just being selfish pricks?

Getting the girl off
The number one concern most guys have when trying to please a woman is whether or not they’ll be able to maintain an erection long enough to give her the huge O she’s gagging for.

Newsflash fuck fans; many women regularly don’t orgasm during intercourse so don’t blow a load if you…well blow your load too early. Simply follow our expert direction and you can both enjoy reality bending orgasms mutually.

Rule 1 – KILL YOUR STRESS LEVEL
If you want to get your fuck buddy off as well as yourself then the first thing you need to do is chill the fuck out. Nothing kills sex faster than someone who is too much in their head.

Sex is supposed to be relaxing, enjoyable and fun. If you’re worrying about work or money or whatever then you’re not going to come close to having an orgasm.

Rule 2 – CLITORAL STIMULATION FOR HER
The 15 minute orgasm has achieved a cult like status thanks to Cosmopolitan along with thousands of testimonials given by fans. The great thing is we’ve field tested it and guess what; it works.
If you want to give a girl a mind altering orgasm or as a girl you want your guy to get off his butt and do some hard labour on you try this.

1. Guy sits on the right side of the woman with his left leg lying perpendicular across her body between her tits and ass.
2. Facing outward guy places his left hand under the girl’s ass with two fingers on both butt cheek and his thumb resting on the base (not the entrance) to the vagina.
3. Using the palm of his right hand guy separates labia and retracts the clitoral hood.
4. Guy anchors the clitoris with his right thumb by holding the hood back.
5. Guy should now imagine looking at the clitoris from directly between the girl’s legs.
6. Guy should find the 1 o’clock position as he faces the clitoris – hint; it’s a small indentation/groove – with his right hand’s forefinger.
7. Guy begins to stroke the groove using the lightest touch – if you go too hard you can actually hurt the woman.
8. Once guy has found the groove and begun stroking it, continue gently and constantly like a metronome.
9. Woman should begin feeling intense pleasure and warmth after only a few minutes once the groove has been found.
10. Keep going.
11. Things will get hazy for the woman. Keep going.
12. Woman will start to moan with pleasure. Keep going.
13. Woman might actually start tearing at you in ecstasy. Keep going.
14. Woman will experience a constant building orgasm. Keep going.
15. Woman passes out with pleasure. Stop and get a glass of water.
16. Woman wakes up. Smile and ask her if she wouldn’t mind returning the favour.
17. Woman returns the favour.
18. Both parties fully satisfied. Job done.

Rule 3: CHILL OUT
We cannot stress this hard enough! If you don’t relax the chances of either of you having a decent orgasm if any are virtually zero.

Summary
Finding the perfect O isn’t as hard as it’s been made out to be. All you have to do really is chill out, have fun exploring each other’s bodies and go for it.

Happy fucking!

Don’t fake an orgasm – but do be nice to the other person when you don’t come

EdBennett — Mon, 20 Jun 2016 19:34:56 +0000

20 Jun 2016 - 20:34 | Tags: faking orgasms, female orgasm, finding orgasms

We all want to please and be pleased. We all want that thing where we come really hard, have our minds blown and have the peace and calm that comes with post sex awesomeness. We also want the other person to have the same reaction. I am not sure why this is, is it just pure ego? Regardless of the why, we want the other person to feel amazing by what ever we have done with them. We want them to have come hard, to have been pleasured fully, and to want nothing more than to do it again (and again) with you because it was that amazing.

In an effort to maintain a good relationship, many people have been taught that they should fake it once in a while. I am mostly talking about women here, but men also do get this a little. They think that the occasional faking of an orgasm when it is not actually taking place is no harm, and that next time they are sure it will be better. They don’t want to set the other person up with a mental block about not being able to make them come, and I do get that. In many ways I admire the generosity – however it is not helpful and that generous approach can be better used in another way. Allow me to explain.

When you fake it, you are giving false feedback. You are telling the other person that what they are doing is great, that whatever they did made you come, made you orgasm. As humans one of the reasons that we have done so well as a race is that we are great at learning. We excel at the obsorbing of what works and does not work on a subconscious level, and then replicating the things that have brought us success. What this means is if you give false feedback, the other person learns that what they did worked. When they do it again in the future expecting you to come, and you don’t, this will be very confusing. More likely is that when they do it again, you will fake it again, confirming that whatever they did made you come. This re enforces the cycle.

What this leaves is a situation where you aren’t having an orgasm, and the other person falsely believes that you are and that everything is great. Don’t do it. Just DON’T. It is bad for everyone involved.

On that note, please go forth and have lots of sex!

Do your perfect sexual partner a favour – find them and fuck them

EdBennett — Tue, 12 Jan 2016 09:01:34 +0000

12 Jan 2016 - 09:01 | Tags: fuck buddy or partner, finding orgasms, basic tenets of casual sex

We all have certain preferences when it comes to having sex with people. Maybe that is how we like to have sex, fast or slow, hard or soft. For some people it is what is needed to turn them on, some people like to be tied up, other people like to be punished, others like none of that and want something extremely vanilla and anything kinky is actually a huge turn off. Some people like it roughm, some people like it soft, most (but not all) people enjoy either being taken/taking someone... what ever it is you like there is a strong argument that one of your life missions is to find that person that balances you. I make no exaggeration here. Your life mission.

First accept that happiness is linked to sex

There are many things that we need in life to make us happy.

Good food
A roof over our head (that preferably we like)
Warmth
The resources to sustain our life (usually money)
A mission (often this will be a combination of a job and something else – but not 100% of the time).
A compatible sexual partner

Look at the list above. Sex is on that list right next to food. It is a basic necessity of a happy life. Yes we can survive without it, but can we be truly happy without that sexual partnership? The answer is no, we cannot.

Second realise that you must actively pursue it

If you want money you have to work for it. If you want a job you have to find it. If you want to achieve anything you have to make it happen for yourself. Why would sex be any different? If you want to have a great sex life, you have top actively pursue it. Recognise that you want it. Then go and get it.

Third – realise that finding your perfect partner is a win win

Spending your time trying to hunt down the perfect sexual partner can feel a little predatory and hunter like. Put this aside with the following unfderstanding. If you find your perfect fuck buddy, your ying to a yang, then they also get to have their perfect fuck. They get to have you. To them you are the dream that they have been looking for all their lives! You not only give yourself the greatest gift, you are giving them the same.

Seek your perfect fuck, and never stop till you find it.

Focus on making the other person come for amazing sex

EdBennett — Sat, 12 Dec 2015 09:49:25 +0000

12 Dec 2015 - 09:49 | Tags: finding orgasms, great sex, coming

Focus on making the other person come for amazing sex
We all want to come with sex. We all want to have the amazing orgasm that gives us that huge rush of pleasure along with the calm and stopping of everything but being in that moment. We all want the rush – both men and women. What is the best way to seek that?

In our focus to achieve it – the drive to get it may actually undermine our ability to reach it as we are distracted from the moment and the other person. If we are completely focused on our own orgasm – it can lead us away from achieving it. There is a way out of this trap.

Focus on the other person. When you have sex, there is a joining of your path with each other. The more the other peron gets turned on, the more and more you will get turned on. The hornier you get, the easier it is to orgasm and come. The hornier you *both* get, the harder you will *both* come. So by focusing on the other person’s pleasure and building up their wetness / hard on, the more you will also have the same build.

It is easier for the other person – so both do it for the mutual win
It is easier for someone to turn you on and make you come, than it is for you to do it yourself. The same goes the other way around. So if you both focus on making the other person come – that is where the win win lies.

Everyone loves surprises – and that boosts pleasure
Everyone loves a surprise – and a good surprise massively increases pleasure. It is impossible to surprise yourself. By definition you planned it so you know what is going to happen. However, you can surprise someone else. I am not talking about massive pre planned presents, or anything that is at all hard work. I am talking about the moment they grab your ear in pleasure, or you slap someones behind whilst in the moment. The moment you suddenly decide to flip the person on to their front so that you can change position and take them from behind – or the moment you were flipped onto your front. By focusing on the other person, you can do all these things for them – and they can do all these things for you, and you both will end up having really amazing sex because of it.

You always come first

EdBennett — Thu, 15 Oct 2015 15:59:49 +0000

15 Oct 2015 - 16:59 | Tags: female orgasm, finding orgasms, making women orgasm, simultaneous orgasms

There is a bad joke that men come first in the bedroom, that women come second or not at all. Regardless of the strength or quality of the joke, there is a Tendency for men to come first in the bedroom, period. Men and women are built differently on a biological level that we have no ability to change, so let’s start by accepting that and moving on. So there are two things to be addressed here, men coming early and women coming late.

Women – learn to come, because there is only so much men can do

There is an understanding that men make women come. This is something that both men and women want to believe, and it is often true in the moment of orgasm. However, there is something which can effectively bottle neck or strangle hold the man’s ability to make her come. The question is can she come in the first place.

When a woman comes, she is the one doing it. Her body has to be relaxed enough, free from enough stress and worry, and turned on enough to orgasm. Her partner will have a lot to building towards this, but fundamentally does she know how to come? If she does not, if she has never come or has real trouble orgasming, if there is a mental or physical block preventing her from orgasm or even a medical issue – there will be nothing the man can do about it. I want to repeat this as it is so important. If the woman does not know how to come, there will be nothing their partner can do about it. It is important that the woman take responsibility for her own body and learn how to come herself. Once she can do this, it paves the way for good sex.

Men – work on your control

Again it is a stereo type that men come quickly and uncontroably. Well gentleman, it is normal to be bad at tennis if you have never spent time getting good at tennis, right? So the same is true here. Unless you make time and effort to get *good* at sex you will never get better.
Spend time learning control. There are a number of ways that you can do this, stop start technique is one that is tried and tested and that many people swear by. The other thing is “edging” - bringing yourself to the brink of coming then stopping everything in order to calm down. Learning the point of your edge is a great way to be able to recognise it when it approaches and then stop yourself from going over the edge.

Regardless: You must sort yoursex out

No one else can teach your body how to do this – only you can. So take the time to learn how to come in the way that you want to come, your orgasms will never be better than after you have done this.