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Great Sex VS Hard Orgasm

EdBennett — Sat, 18 Jun 2016 08:32:59 +0000

18 Jun 2016 - 09:32 | Tags: great sex, simultaneous orgasms, making women orgasm

There are many different ways to have sex. You can have it indoors, you can have it outdoors. You can have it traditionally on a bed, you can have it not traditionally on the floor, you can go alternative and do it in the cupboard or on top of the television. You can do it simple and vanilla, you could go super kinky and do it with ropes and toys. Sometimes you will want to do it fast and hard, other times you might want to do is slow and soft. There are days when you want to make love to the other person, and there are other times when what you both want is just a good hard fuck.

Even if the mechanics of it are similar, the quality of the actual sex can differ massively. Sometimes the sex is mind blowingly amazing, and other times, well let’s just say that everyone and I mean everyone has times when the sex is so unsatisfactory that actually afterwards it was clear that you would both have been better of if you hadn’t bothered at all!

The ideal situation is that you have great sex that finishes in a really hard orgasm – for both of you. It rarely happens at the same time mind you, but getting a period of cross over is enough I think. Did you ever think about the difference between the two though?

Having an orgasm and having great sex are so intertwined, so synonymous with each other that actually we forget that they are two different measurements points, that whilst they come hand in hand, they can be of very different strengths! Allow me to expand.

Having great sex is about so much more than just the orgasm – and can in fact not even include each other! Great sex is about the build up, the setting. It is about the tease, about how much you want each other in the moment, about how much you turn each other on to the point where you are ready to rip each other’s clothes off and fuck really hard. It is also about the experience, if you do it in a different or exciting way, then it can be really exciting sex!

Having an Orgasm is about the actual act of coming. You can come to different levels as well, so you can come, or you can come really hard! So there are better and worse orgasms.

The interesting thing is that whilst they often come hand in hand, you can have one without the other, and you can excel in one area with out the other being that high a level. An awareness of this can help you to endure that all your nights are one to remember – so keep an eye on both!

You always come first

EdBennett — Thu, 15 Oct 2015 15:59:49 +0000

15 Oct 2015 - 16:59 | Tags: female orgasm, finding orgasms, making women orgasm, simultaneous orgasms

There is a bad joke that men come first in the bedroom, that women come second or not at all. Regardless of the strength or quality of the joke, there is a Tendency for men to come first in the bedroom, period. Men and women are built differently on a biological level that we have no ability to change, so let’s start by accepting that and moving on. So there are two things to be addressed here, men coming early and women coming late.

Women – learn to come, because there is only so much men can do

There is an understanding that men make women come. This is something that both men and women want to believe, and it is often true in the moment of orgasm. However, there is something which can effectively bottle neck or strangle hold the man’s ability to make her come. The question is can she come in the first place.

When a woman comes, she is the one doing it. Her body has to be relaxed enough, free from enough stress and worry, and turned on enough to orgasm. Her partner will have a lot to building towards this, but fundamentally does she know how to come? If she does not, if she has never come or has real trouble orgasming, if there is a mental or physical block preventing her from orgasm or even a medical issue – there will be nothing the man can do about it. I want to repeat this as it is so important. If the woman does not know how to come, there will be nothing their partner can do about it. It is important that the woman take responsibility for her own body and learn how to come herself. Once she can do this, it paves the way for good sex.

Men – work on your control

Again it is a stereo type that men come quickly and uncontroably. Well gentleman, it is normal to be bad at tennis if you have never spent time getting good at tennis, right? So the same is true here. Unless you make time and effort to get *good* at sex you will never get better.
Spend time learning control. There are a number of ways that you can do this, stop start technique is one that is tried and tested and that many people swear by. The other thing is “edging” - bringing yourself to the brink of coming then stopping everything in order to calm down. Learning the point of your edge is a great way to be able to recognise it when it approaches and then stop yourself from going over the edge.

Regardless: You must sort yoursex out

No one else can teach your body how to do this – only you can. So take the time to learn how to come in the way that you want to come, your orgasms will never be better than after you have done this.

Coming Together

jeni — Fri, 26 Jul 2013 08:00:00 +0000

26 Jul 2013 - 09:00 | Tags: simultaneous orgasms

You would think that in the last 50 years we have reached a stage where we can talk openly and honestly about sex and orgasms, but the unfortunate reality is that many women and men still surprised when they realise that coming at the same time is actually quite challenging to do.

Simultaneous O
It was in the 60s during the western sexual revolution that men and women both started to realise that having an orgasm at the same time was rare, and generally more liable to happen when you’d been sleeping with someone for a long time. Getting to know another person’s body well generally doesn’t happen in one night.

How can casual fuck buddies achieve simultaneous orgasm?
Is this even possible in a casual relationship?

Yes.

Anything is possible. You just have to put your mind to it and you can come like bunnies together whenever you want.

Of course it does require a bit of work – something worth doing always does.

How To Come Together

1. Guys: Learn to ensure the woman can come pretty much at will.
Women find it a lot harder to orgasm during penetrative sex so to ensure that you can both come at the same time, spend time learning to read her responses. Don’t rush. Don’t panic. Chill. Spend time locating her clitoris and during sex make sure you can reach it with your fingertips. When you can feel you’re both close, rub it gently but with enthusiasm.

2. Women: Multiple Orgasms
Women have a distinct advantage over pretty much every man on the planet when it comes to sex; they can have multiple orgasms. But this is great for achieving simultaneous orgasm. Why? Because instead of just one target, the guy has multiple targets to hit. If the guy isn’t ready to come but the woman is, it doesn’t matter as he can wait for the next time she’s ready. The caveat to this element is again learning to read your fuck buddy’s responses well. This might take more than one session.

3. Guys: Learn to control your own timing
Younger guys tend to come a lot faster then older guys. If this happens to you there is nothing to be ashamed about – it’s just the way nature works. It’s also why many women like older men as they have learnt not to rush sex and make it last for hours coming only when they’re ready to. But learning to control your orgasms at a younger age is also possible. You simply need to relax and learn to read your body’s physical cues when you’re getting close. The moment you know you are is the moment you can slow things down. Withdraw if necessary and play around with your fuck buddy a bit before entering her again. This will help train your body not to get overexcited too quickly. In turn this will enable you to time your orgasm closer to a woman’s.

The Great Big O In The Sky
Simultaneous orgasms are not common even though some people still tend to think that they are. However they are achievable with a little patience and practice. Whilst many of you may think it’s not going to happen in a casual relationship, we can assure you that it can and does happen in any sexual relationship.

Go for the O together and happy fucking!