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Re entering the sexual market place: how to get back in the game if you have been out for a while

EdBennett — Fri, 20 Oct 2017 21:59:30 +0000

20 Oct 2017 - 22:59 | Tags: the game, starting sex, anal sex for beginners

When you in the throes of dating people, when you have hit your stride, the whole thing seems easy! You are focused on having fun and enjoying the ride and so you do enjoy the ride. It is sometimes hard to remember what it was like when you were first re-entering the sexual marketplace, and how nervous and unsure you were at times. If you are reading this and you are in that place of just trying to get back on the horse and get back to dating, take heart. Soon you will be that person who wonders why people think it is difficult, because for you, it will have become simple fun!

So you have been out of it for a while. Perhaps you were in a long term relationship and that recently ended. Or maybe you were out of the country. There is always the possibility that you were just working really hard, and that left you little to no time to think about spending time with someone else - even if they were drop dead gorgeous. In many ways, the reasons here do not matter. If you have been out of the game for a while, it can be really hard to get back in the game. The whole thing feels intimidating, difficult to enter, and a lot of hard work! In fact, the effort required can sometimes seem so huge, that it feels like it is not worth the effort in comparison to the gain of finding someone to sleep with! As crazy as that sounds to anyone reading this who already has a fuck buddy on the go, or has someone nicely set up in a no strings attached relationship, it remains true. Those of you reading this who have been out of the system for a while know exactly what I am talking about here. So what is the key to getting back in the game?

Just do it!

I could give you tips and techniques, and there are other articles on this website that will do this, but the overriding thing here is action. Take action – any action – to sleep with someone. You don’t even have to be successful to begin with, you just have to do it. That is the main thing. Take massive action.

Start now

Do something right now. Make it small, make it easy, make it simple. Doing something now will help you build momentum so that you can then keep doing things. My top suggestion is send one person a message on this website right now. That will get you going.

Keep doing it – and you will find yourself sleeping with someone.

It really is as simple as that. So what are you waiting for?

It is always awkward the first time: Feel the fear and do it anyway

EdBennett — Sat, 13 Feb 2016 11:05:56 +0000

13 Feb 2016 - 11:05 | Tags: anal sex for beginners, best times for sex

Recently I had a friend of mine, (well actually an F-buddy f mine) talk about one her friends that doesn’t want to tell his f-buddy that he likes her. What he said was that it feels uncomfortable to say it, so even though he feels it he doesn’t want to say it. This got me thinking – everything is uncomfortable the first time, you just have to push through and do it anyway! Let me expand on this.

Back when you were a wee little person and completely new to girls/boys, if you liked someone even talking to them felt uncomfortable. Eventually you got over it, but the way you got over it was that eventually someone or some situation pushed you into talking to the opposite sex. It was super uncomfortable the first time, but then after you did it the next time is was less so until it became normal.

Your first kiss – if you remember it – was guaranteed to be awkward! I would bet money that you as a reader had a not so great slightly uncomfortable first kiss. How do I know this? Because until you have done it – or course it is awkward! Once you have “done it anyway” only then can you move on with starting to really enjoy kissing and getting good at it.

Your first fuck – damn this was awkward! Of course it was! You were all nervous and fumbling around. You knew what you were supposed to be doing (kinda) but it was all theory and no practice. Your body new it wanted to have sex and do it, but you didn’t understand the mechanics so of course it felt odd... and here comes the key thing – you did it anyway! You pushed through and now you are a sex god! You know how to have sex and you are ready to dispense the blessing of your touch to all that wish to receive it – as long as they are hot enough. You would never have reached this unless you had pushed through and just done it anyway the first time.

What I am trying to remind you of is that you have already done this a bunch of times and felt the benefit. You have already felt the fear and done it anyway and your life is better for it. So if there is something that you want to try with your sexual partner but are a little too nervous of approaching it because it feels awkward, then get over it. Feel the fear of it, then do it anyway. You know that it will work out for you.

Anal Sex for beginners

jeni — Sat, 28 Sep 2013 08:00:00 +0000

28 Sep 2013 - 09:00 | Tags: anal sex for beginners, how to have anal sex for the first time

Many of our members list anal sex as one of their favourite acts to engage in. It’s not for us to say whether every member who lists it as a favourite has actually tried it.

We’re not here to judge. We’re here to help.

If you’ve never had anal sex before but have been dying to try it, but don’t know where to begin, then we have a few tips and suggestions that will help get both you and your fuck buddy in the mood to try it.

And hey, even if you are a seasoned pro at anal sex, don’t just click away; there might be a few things you didn’t know.

Why do women love anal sex?
Before trying it, it’s important to understand why many women enjoy anal sex. It’s a different tighter sensation then vaginal sex, it’s still a bit of a taboo and it carries an allure of being naughty – no one else but you and your fuck buddy need know that you’ve had anal sex. For women anal sex can feel beyond amazing. It’s deep inside and feels oddly like a mixed up combination of vaginal and clitoral stimulation. The ‘first time for everything’ taboo makes it even more exciting.

BUT (there is always a but), you have to be aware of the potential negatives as well.

Why do women hate anal sex?
There are women who’ve tried anal sex, hated it and have sworn never to do it again. The reasons for this are fairly clear and have a lot to do with the mood both parties were in when they began. It’s not easy to be good at when you have no experience. It’s not just a case of thrusting in and out – it’s not a vagina! If the man isn’t careful, if he doesn’t warm the woman up first and if both parties are not chilled out and horny enough, anal sex can be a painful experience. And of course there is always the risk of mess.

So how do I approach anal sex for the first time?
Back in 2006 an estimated one fourth of all couples in the western hemisphere had tried anal sex. That figure has since risen. And that is because people have gotten better at doing it. So here’s how to explore it for the first time in a relaxed environment and with no fear of something going wrong.

1. No right way
There is not one right way to begin exploring anal sex. However if you’re both new to it, it’s probably wise to start with something a bit smaller then a cock. Try using your fingers first. Many women report getting increasingly turned on when a man starts rimming them or stroking their butt hole with their fingers.

2. Don’t just spring it
9 times out of 10, it’s not wise to suddenly stick your dick where no dick has gone before when you’re new to anal sex. An unprepared woman might feel pain even if it was unintentional and they might even feel slightly violated as they didn’t initiate it. Read your fuck buddy’s body language and speak openly about it when you want to try it.

3. Start slow
THE BUTT IS NOT A VAGINA. It’s not technically designed for you to stick your cock in it (even though you can). You must go slow to begin with. Penetrate slowly and stop. Watch your partner’s reactions and don’t start again until you’re certain she’s ready for you to.

4. Lube up
We cannot stress this enough! Make sure you use plenty of lubrication before anal sex. The butt is tight and when you have anal sex without lube, the chances increase of small tears occurring inside the anus which can lead to the transmission of STIs and STDs. Be safe, use a condom if you’re doing it for the first time with someone and use plenty of lube!

5. Go to the toilet beforehand
If there’s even the possibility of having anal sex in your minds, make sure she’s emptied her bowels at least an hour beforehand. Women spend a great deal of time on their appearance and smell, and the thought of having an unfortunate incident during anal sex would be enough to put her off it for life if she’s never done it. Be smart and go to the toilet beforehand. Try taking a shower together as well to assure each other that you’re both clean and ready!

6. No fixed positions
The position you try in anal sex depends solely on the couple. Some women like to be on top of the guy when they try it as it enables them to control the level of penetration. Other women prefer to have the guy enter from behind doggy style as it allows a deeper tighter sensation. Whatever the position you try, make sure it’s one you’re both comfortable with. If one position doesn’t work, try a different one.

7. Don’t be afraid to talk
It’s essential that you both feel comfortable during anal sex to enjoy it fully. So talk about it. Communicate what you like and don’t like. If you don’t then your experience will most likely be a memorable one but for all the wrong reasons.

Try before you buy
Follow our advice and see how you get on. And if there’s anything you think we missed, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with us – we’d love to hear from you.

Happy fucking!