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Things that will make you have less sex

EdBennett — Wed, 26 Feb 2020 20:49:07 +0000

26 Feb 2020 - 20:49 | Tags: how to be the perfect fuck buddy, top mistakes guys make when approaching women

We all want to be happy. It is hard-wired into us. For all of us, this includes certain basic things: food to eat, clothes to wear, a warm and safe place to sleep at night. Some psychologists talk about the need for education, but I think this is more the need for some kind of growth or personal expansion. It does not have to be huge and it is very different for different people. We do need change and variation of some kind.

Once the basics of survival are dealt, happiness then comes to the things in our lives that make us feel like we are living rather than merely existing. Things that push us beyond feeling like we are breathing and nothing more. This includes: learning new skills, job progress or progress, new friends or relationships, growing in a hobby that one is passionate about. Having sex is certainly on the list, and in fact, is a major player when it comes to feeling fulfilled and happy. Given how important it is, I am always somewhat surprised at how many people reduce or destroy their opportunities to have sex by taking actions that make you less likely to have sex! So to help solve this, here is the list of my top tips of things that are likely to make you have less sex, not more.

Not washing regularly

It does not matter how good looking you are, how much money you make, what car your drive or what a winning personality you wield. Someone may be uncontrollably attracted to you, but if they get close and you smell like a horse that hasn’t had its manure mucked out for a week, then they will be repulsed. You will have destroyed a perfectly good hook up. This is a great way to keep away future fuck buddies.

Never go out

If you always say no to any and all invites you get given, you are screwing yourself out of the opportunity of meeting someone that you can sleep with. All fuck buddies have to meet their friends with benefits somewhere. So say yes to invitations as and when you get them, you do not know where it might lead.

Tell yourself that no one wants to have sex with you

There is an interesting thing with beliefs, they fulfil themselves. If you believe that you are someone that no one wants to have sex with and never will, you will make it true. When you meet someone that wants to sleep with you, you will sabotage the interaction to ensure that you are correct in your belief. If you are someone that believes that no one wants you, stop it right now. Someone does. Everyone has someone that is their type, so stop thinking you can’t have sex so that you can go and have sex.

Those are my top three. If you are doing any of these, stop it immediately to have more sex.

The only way to get sex is to take action

EdBennett — Sat, 28 Jan 2017 18:41:59 +0000

28 Jan 2017 - 18:41 | Tags: top mistakes guys make when approaching women, make it happen, just do it for sex

You know that moment where you see someone and you really like the look of them – infact lets just take it as read that you see them you decide that you most definitely want to fuck them. I mean they look just your type, and all you want to do is grab them, throw them against a wall and give them a good seeing to? Well the only way to make this happen is to take action. This may seem rather obvious to say, but so many times action is not taken, and you end up where you started regardless because you have failed to do anything to make it happen. Let me break it down for you.

What holds you back from sex – fear

So the first thing is to recognise that the thing that is holding you back from taking action, from doing anything about your desire to sleep with a particular woman is fear. This could be any of the following

Fear of failure
Fear of rejection
Fear of retribution from another man
Fear of success (fear that it will work out!)
Fear of not knowing what to say or do
Fear that we are crap in bed
Fear of having to deal with the follow on of rejection
Fear of having to deal with the follow on of success

The list of fears is pretty huge! So how can you combat the fear that will inevitably fill you and paralise your ability to get what you want? You have to recognise that the ONLY way to have any chance of being successful is to take action. Let’s run this as a scenario.

The model to free yourself from fear

The goal is that you like the look of a girl and you would like to sleep with her. What you have to do in order to achieve this is to hit on her. There are three possible scenarios that we are going to model here:

Scenario 1: You don’t hit on her, so nothing happens and you fail to sleep with here. You lose.
Scenario 2: You hit on her and you are rejected and thus fail to sleep with her. You lose.
Scenario 3: You hit on her, she loves it and immediately comes back to yours, you have sex. You win.

So there are 3 options here, and the only one that guarantees failure is the first one. The only way to have a chance to win is to take action and hit on her. You still might fail, but it is the only way to be in for a chance to get laid.

So always take action – it is the only way to have any possibility of getting laid. Go forth and hit on girls!

Approach Mistakes...According to women

jeni — Sat, 26 Oct 2013 08:00:00 +0000

26 Oct 2013 - 09:00 | Tags: top mistakes guys make when approaching women

We’ve had a lot of email recently from guys asking for help when messaging or approaching women cold. As the questions were all similar we decided to ask the women what approaches work and what approaches don’t. Pay attention guys as these errors might be yours.

1. Being Defensive
A lot of guys (me included) make the classic mistake of assuming the worst when approaching and talking to women on the street or in a bar. “Why the hell would she want to talk to me?” “I bet she’ll tell me to fuck off…” Unless you’re a natural pick up artist then the chances are one or more of these thoughts have run through your head. But they are only in your head. If you go in expecting the worst, you’ll receive the worst. Try going in expecting a positive response and you’ll be amazed at the response you’ll get. Believe it or not most women are friendly and are looking to chat with equally friendly people. Go in confident that you’re a great guy, and you’ll get a great response.

2. Reacting rather than Acting
This is a common mistake men make according to women. Sometimes a guy spends too much time wondering what the woman is thinking of him rather than just conversing naturally. If you over think what you say before you say it then you’re reacting to your fear of how she sees you. Don’t do it. If there’s a lull in the conversation, don’t try to fill it with nonsense no matter how awkward you start feeling. Your silence will actually encourage the woman to try and talk more.

3. Not checking to see if she already has a boyfriend or is seeing someone
So you’ve spent 40 minutes talking to a girl and then only at the end when you ask for her number do you discover that she’s attached. FAIL! Next time, try finding out early on whether or not the girl you’re talking to is available. You can be direct: “Are you single?” or you can be discreet and say something like “I bet your boyfriend loves you chatting to random guys!” Whichever way you decide to go, say it with confidence and you’ll be fine.

4. Being Wasted
Epic fail guys. If you’re talking to a woman and you’re having trouble standing let alone talking, the chances are she’ll pick up on it and fuck off. No one wants to talk to a sleazy drunk which is exactly how she’ll see you even if you think you’re Don-fucking-Juan. Have a few drinks if you want sure, but stay sharp and stay sober.

5. Overuse of Pick Up Lines
This is an interesting one, as pick up lines do work (whether women want to admit it or not), but if all you have are pick up lines, then the conversation is going to run dry very very quickly. You need to have a personality to continue a conversation so don’t be afraid to let yours show after you’ve opened.

6. Talking about yourself too much
Yes you’re very interesting and ever so important…but why the fuck should she care if all you’re talking about is yourself? ‘Arrogant’, ‘boring’ and ‘a dick’ will be the 3 things she thinks if all you do is talk about yourself. Allow the conversation to flow naturally and you’ll be fine.

7. Talking to her friend too much
A classic pick up trick…and an epic fail if overused. Yes it’s true that if you chat to a woman’s friends you are communicating your ability to be able to talk to anyone and be attractive and interesting in the object of your desire’s eyes – “why is this guy talking to my friends but not to me?” but you need to temper this. You do actually need to talk to the girl you want to talk to as well. If you don’t show any interest then she’ll fuck off and you’ll be stuck with her less attractive (to you) friend.

8. Watch the Personal Space
You’ve only just met, so just like when you meet someone in the street or in the office or at a party…wherever…watch the space. No one likes their personal space being invaded by someone they don’t know early on. You need to establish social trust before you can start being touchy-feely. Fortunately this can be done very quickly, but you cannot start by putting your arm around a woman before you’ve even said hello. 9 times out of 10 she’ll walk away or tell you to fuck off.

9. Assuming everyone’s on the pull
It’s hard to believe, but sometimes people go out with their friends to, you know, actually just go out with their friends. Take the hint if the group isn’t engaging you and leave.

10. Right time, Wrong Place
People assume that the gym is the best place to pick up women. Sorry, but it’s not. Women (even though some of them look stunning in those skin tight gym outfits) do not want to chat with a guy when they’re in the exercise zone and feeling all sweaty. The same rings true for office politics. Women don’t want to be hit on when they’re you know, trying to do their job! You might be the most attractive sought after guy in the world, but you’ll still get told to piss off if you try and pick up women in the wrong place.

We hope that answers some of your approach questions but if you have any more feel free to contact us.

Happy fucking!