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Fuck buddies and self-esteem

EdBennett — Thu, 29 Jul 2021 22:51:15 +0000

29 Jul 2021 - 23:51 | Tags: bedroom confidence, the game, improving your sex life

Having a high sense of self-esteem has proven to be something that is key not just to happiness, but to our success in the world that we live in. People with high self-esteem get better jobs, earn more money, and are able to pursue the things that are going to make them happy (which leaves them happier). They are able to do this because they have a higher sense of belief in themselves and their ability. Often it is not because they think that they are any better at something, they just think that everyone can do it including them. This is not about having a big ego, I am not saying that overweening pride is a good thing (because it really is not at all), I am saying that having a good sense of self-esteem is important to living the life you want to lead. So how can you increase your self-esteem?

What everyone tells you that works, that has limited use

There are a lot of books, guides and people that tell you one way to increase your self-esteem is to just tell yourself that you are better. An example is being told to stare in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are a strong, independent person with love, life and value to offer the world and that the world loves you. Now, I am not saying that this does not have some positive effect, because it does. Mantras or repeating positive things about yourself to yourself can help you trick yourself into believing them. What I am saying is that it is a tick, you know it is a trick, and therefore it is quite hard to make it stick. Doing this has some beneficial effect, but that effect is limited. You have to do a lot to make headway. There is a more effective way.

External validation

As much as being internally validated is the ideal state to be in, the easiest way to get there is to be externally validated first. If you have people around you telling you that you are great, that is so much easier to believe that you doing it to yourself. You know that when you tell yourself, you are trying to fake it till you make it, but when someone else tells you, then you can take that at face value. So how do you get someone to do it in the most effective way? Sex of course.

Get a fuck buddy to help you build your self-esteem.

When you fuck someone hard, and I mean really pleasure them, they are in a state that is created by you. Their compliments, pleasure and joy in you is real and irrefutable. So if you want to build your esteem, consider getting a fuck buddy, showing them a good time, then making sure you bed in that their happiness was caused by you. You were the centre of their universe for those moments, and you have real value in the world. This is a fast track. Once it is bedded in, you internalise it and you are then internally validated for life.

Go get ‘em tiger!

Re entering the sexual market place: how to get back in the game if you have been out for a while

EdBennett — Fri, 20 Oct 2017 21:59:30 +0000

20 Oct 2017 - 22:59 | Tags: the game, starting sex, anal sex for beginners

When you in the throes of dating people, when you have hit your stride, the whole thing seems easy! You are focused on having fun and enjoying the ride and so you do enjoy the ride. It is sometimes hard to remember what it was like when you were first re-entering the sexual marketplace, and how nervous and unsure you were at times. If you are reading this and you are in that place of just trying to get back on the horse and get back to dating, take heart. Soon you will be that person who wonders why people think it is difficult, because for you, it will have become simple fun!

So you have been out of it for a while. Perhaps you were in a long term relationship and that recently ended. Or maybe you were out of the country. There is always the possibility that you were just working really hard, and that left you little to no time to think about spending time with someone else - even if they were drop dead gorgeous. In many ways, the reasons here do not matter. If you have been out of the game for a while, it can be really hard to get back in the game. The whole thing feels intimidating, difficult to enter, and a lot of hard work! In fact, the effort required can sometimes seem so huge, that it feels like it is not worth the effort in comparison to the gain of finding someone to sleep with! As crazy as that sounds to anyone reading this who already has a fuck buddy on the go, or has someone nicely set up in a no strings attached relationship, it remains true. Those of you reading this who have been out of the system for a while know exactly what I am talking about here. So what is the key to getting back in the game?

Just do it!

I could give you tips and techniques, and there are other articles on this website that will do this, but the overriding thing here is action. Take action – any action – to sleep with someone. You don’t even have to be successful to begin with, you just have to do it. That is the main thing. Take massive action.

Start now

Do something right now. Make it small, make it easy, make it simple. Doing something now will help you build momentum so that you can then keep doing things. My top suggestion is send one person a message on this website right now. That will get you going.

Keep doing it – and you will find yourself sleeping with someone.

It really is as simple as that. So what are you waiting for?

Playing The Game

jeni — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 09:00:00 +0000

11 Nov 2013 - 09:00 | Tags: how to win a fuck buddy, playing the game, the game

Dating, and especially internet dating feels like a game of chess sometimes. Your opponent opens with the Queen’s gambit, you respond with the Knight’s Manoeuvre and eventually that castle comes out of nowhere to mate your King. How the hell did that happen? And why the hell do they give all these chess moves ridiculous names in the first place?

Those answers will have to wait for another time.

For now we want to talk about the huge game that finding a fuck buddy is and what (if any) rules there are and if you should follow them or break them.

The Game
Back in 2007, a book called ‘The Game’ was published by Neil Strauss and very quickly made waves all across the world. Men and women were up in arms at the story of how an average looking thirty something man became to be voted the ‘world’s No. 1 pick-up artist’. The book is a fascinating account of how a geeky journalist became enamoured and eventually obsessed with the art of attraction.

A lot of the women’s lib brigade decried it as ‘demeaning’, ‘sexist’ and misogynistic. Many men also thought that it was fiction and a load of bollocks.

Fortunately the rest of the men and women who read the book came to realise that Strauss had stumbled onto something that some men have naturally and others need to learn: the art of attracting and keeping a woman. And if you’re trying to find a new fuck buddy then taking a look into the world of seduction and pick up artistry wouldn’t be a bad recommendation.

How to play the game
This is going to sound incredibly sexist to some women, but the fact is 99% of the time most women want a guy to be super confident and hit on them.

This is one of the first tenets of learning about the game. In order to get the fuck buddy you want, you have to man up and 99% of the time, make the first move. Not only that, you have to be super Alpha Male and be completely comfortable with who you are and what you want. In summary this means learning to be the best possible version of you.

And that is the core of The Game.

To learn about all the routines and pick up lines you can employ to aid you in your quest to have sex with as many people as possible, I would highly recommend any guy to pick up a copy of ‘The Game’ and any woman to pick up the female version ‘The Rules’.

However none of the information in either will help you unless you remember the core principles of both; basically to be confident in who you are and 100% happy with what you want. All the detractors either haven’t read the books or worse, read them and missed the points they were trying to make.

To play the game, you have to know the game. Give it a whirl and see what fuck buddies come flying their way towards you.

Happy fucking!