Why we are attracted to people from different countries

When it comes to who we want to sleep with, there is a real tension between nature and nurture. Much of our sexual preferences come from how we grew up, the people we are surrounded with, and our early experiences. In other cases, we are driven by our hard coded genetics, the things that we are born with as humans that we have no control over. In this article, I am going to discuss the elements of nature that affect our hook up preferences, how our nature changes who we form no strings attached relationships with, with I will conclude with reasons why these play into our desire to have lots of sex with people from other countries.

Nature

In nature we are born with a desire to procreate. “Go forth and multiply” God said according to the bible. We are had coded to want to have sex. Those that do not have this element within their biology are bred out, they do not have kids and thus do not pass on the nature of not wanting sex. It is a key trait for survival and genetic prosperity.

Part of what comes with survival is a desire to get the best genetic mix in order for our kids to have the best survival traits. Sleeping with someone who looks remarkably different from ourselves ensures that these differences are in place. We are diven to find these differences, and that’s why genetically we want to have sex with people who are different to us, a prime example being that of someone who is from a different country. They sound completely different to us.

Nurture

This also plays an important role: how we are brought up, the people that we are surrounded by. The major factor, the thing that makes the biggest difference, is our early sexual expeiences. Our first big “love” can make a lasting and irrevocable impact on the people that we are going to find attractive. The people that surround us also set our “normal” – that which we are familiar with.

Nature and nurture coming together

Nature is pushing you to find a genetic mix, with the largest variation being the best. Nurture sets your normal, and normal is often boring and less interesting. This means that when you meet someone that is from a foreign country, they ping BOTH these aspects. They are interesting and different in that they are different from your personal “normal”, and then alongside this also ping your natural hard coded drive to find genetic variation.

So that’s why you may find yourself attracted to someone who is very different to yourself, and when you do, go for it!